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Title: please help me
Post by: vorsillion on 31/12/2008 07:05:45
Me and my girlfriend had sex last night. But I dont consider it someone sex at some sort. We didnt even use condoms. I had no choice but to follow what girlfriend asked me to do. She told me that we can have sex but we have to wear our undies in doing it. Funny huh? I got her wet about 3-4 times and then she gave me a handjob and I came. A few hours later, we do it again with the same procedure with undies again. This time, I can still feel that there are still some fluid being excreted from my penis and some of it are damp or should I say give the "wetness" feeling in my under wear. By the way, I wiped the sperm after I came. Like I said before, we did it with undies without any penetration but that fluid of mine is sperm right? You know, sperm remains. What I am asking is that will she be pregnant when both of our undies which is mine being wet with that fluid??? Please help...

Please also give some full details
Title: please help me
Post by: Chemistry4me on 31/12/2008 07:53:30
I think its semen (seminal fluid), or more precisely, pre-ejaculate fluid... just a little bit of the stuff can give the feeling that there are bucket loads. I'm not sure what you mean by more details.
Title: please help me
Post by: Chemistry4me on 31/12/2008 08:11:35
Let me just get something straight here, you got some fluid on your underwear? But no penetration, I'm not sure what you mean by,
What I am asking is that will she be pregnant when both of our undies which is mine being wet with that fluid???
If your underwear is wet and theres no penetration, what are you worried about? I've had a flip through my trusty human biology book and pre-ejaculate is just an alkaline substance which neutralises the acidic effect of urine and also inside the vagina. Still, if you are very worried, go get it checked out
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Post by: Chemistry4me on 31/12/2008 08:31:22
I forgot to ask, was the fluid colourless, or you know, white...ish?
Title: please help me
Post by: vorsillion on 31/12/2008 10:38:00
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Let me just get something straight here, you got some fluid on your underwear? But no penetration, I'm not sure what you mean by,
Quote from: vorsillion on Today at 07:05:45
What I am asking is that will she be pregnant when both of our undies which is mine being wet with that fluid???
If your underwear is wet and theres no penetration, what are you worried about? I've had a flip through my trusty human biology book and pre-ejaculate is just an alkaline substance which neutralises the acidic effect of urine and also inside the vagina. Still, if you are very worried, go get it checked out

it could be semen. This is how the situation goes. I ejaculated successfully through her handjob. Then, I wiped it off with a hanky. A few hours later, we did it again(with the undies again), and I had a wet feeling. Could it be sperm or pre-ejaculation fluid? Will she be pregnant if that "fluid" collides with her undie?

The fluid is by the way, colorless... but as sticky as sperm.
Title: please help me
Post by: Chemistry4me on 31/12/2008 10:44:48
Well, even if it was sperm and it did 'collide' with her underwear, the sperm are not going to swim up through the vagina, into the uterus and into one of the oviducts. Most like it was pre-ejaculate anyway, you didn't ejaculate the second time though did you? If no, then you've got nothing to worry about...
Title: please help me
Post by: vorsillion on 31/12/2008 13:50:27
yeah, I didnt... only once. Ejaculated also means "came" right?
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Post by: RD on 31/12/2008 17:35:13
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As long as neither party takes off their underpants, no babies will result: MYTH.

If that were true, condoms would be made of cotton. Although teens may feel as long as a barrier of any sort keeps genitals from having direct contact with each other that what's going on doesn't really count, sperm don't subscribe to that view — they've a job to perform, and symbolic barriers mean nothing to them...

Also, even if there's no vaginal penetration, pregnancy can still result if ejaculation occurs near the vagina. Semen can still seep inside the girl's body, and sperm can still make their way toward the egg...

Although the egg lives for only 12-24 hours after it is released from the ovary and fertilization must take place within that time, sperm can live inside a girl's body for two to five days waiting for the egg to be released.   
http://www.snopes.com/pregnant/conceive.asp
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Post by: blakestyger on 31/12/2008 18:14:25
It's clear that you have been well advised so far, Vorsillion, but I can't help thinking that your anxieties could have been avoided if, instead of all this conjugal unpleasantness you and your girlfriend got up to, you had a hobby.

There are some very good model kits, at reasonable prices, that will keep you occupied for hours. There's nothing like fiddling about with the gun turrets of the 1/72 scale Graf Spee to take the mind away from things sexual - and she could do something useful, like knit you some socks.

Heed this advice - fooling around with girls will bring nothing but misery. [;)]
Title: please help me
Post by: vorsillion on 01/01/2009 00:27:52
well, after my ejaculation, like about an hour or two, we did it again after I wipde off the fluid in my undies and my penis itself.

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Also, even if there's no vaginal penetration, pregnancy can still result if ejaculation occurs near the vagina. Semen can still seep inside the girl's body, and sperm can still make their way toward the egg...

Well, ejaculation took an hour or two before we did it again and I wipe off the sperm and the remaining fluids in my undies and penis. I would like to clear that when we do it again, I felt like Im wet. That "wetness" is for sure semen or pre-ejaculation fluid right?

It's clear that you have been well advised so far, Vorsillion, but I can't help thinking that your anxieties could have been avoided if, instead of all this conjugal unpleasantness you and your girlfriend got up to, you had a hobby.

There are some very good model kits, at reasonable prices, that will keep you occupied for hours. There's nothing like fiddling about with the gun turrets of the 1/72 scale Graf Spee to take the mind away from things sexual - and she could do something useful, like knit you some socks.

Heed this advice - fooling around with girls will bring nothing but misery. [;)]
Yeah I have. But I just want some advices and I am not really bothered by it coz I am about 75% unsure of what I did
Title: please help me
Post by: Chemistry4me on 01/01/2009 02:51:00
No disrespect vorsillion but has your girlfriend even started her menstrual cycle yet?
Title: please help me
Post by: vorsillion on 01/01/2009 04:03:01
you mean those menstruation and stuffs? yeah, she did... she is 18 by the way. why ask?
Title: please help me
Post by: Chemistry4me on 01/01/2009 09:35:16
Because if she had not started, then she couldn't possibly get pregnant.
Title: please help me
Post by: vorsillion on 01/01/2009 09:54:01
I see... So I'll summarize my situation. I only ejaculated once by a handjob and after that, we had sex by colliding our undies and my underwear is somewhat wet by the so-called pre-ejaculation fluid. And also, we did it without any penetration. So, will she get pregnant by any chance?
Title: please help me
Post by: Chemistry4me on 01/01/2009 10:15:49
Pre-ejaculate contains no sperm (or if you prefer:spermatozoon), I forgot to mention that  [:I] [:I]. But if by chance it was not pre-ejaculate, sperm produced after the first ejaculation isn't as of high quality as the first lot, as there are likely to be more weaker ones/have more defects. To put it another way, you wouldn't want to donate sperm that has come from the second, third... ejaculation if you wanted to be a father. So the chances of pregancy is probably 0.1% (I'm not sure actually, but you needn't worry). I'm sure it won't happen.
Title: please help me
Post by: vorsillion on 01/01/2009 10:43:22
thanks... Im now relieved :D

by the way, about that defect thingie you had mention about the next ejaculations, is it true?  Why are there defects?
Title: please help me
Post by: Chemistry4me on 01/01/2009 10:53:23
Well, you've got to realise that sperm takes time to grow and mature (in the epididymis, if you care to know), and the time this takes varies, but from what you have said, two to three hours isn't nearly enough, so that is why the sperm produced after the first lot are not as healthy...
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Post by: blakestyger on 01/01/2009 11:46:11
... the sperm produced after the first lot are not as healthy...

What are the implications here?

Does this mean that the sperm in this batch are less able to get to the egg and fertilise it or, if one does, does it mean the resulting offspring will be less healthy in some way?

What do you mean when you say the sperm are not as healthy? How does this show itself, is the genome defective or is it in the protein coat and tail?



Title: please help me
Post by: Make it Lady on 01/01/2009 11:49:10
Vorsillion, I hope this is a lesson to you. You are worrying and worrying and worrying and yes there is a slim chance you could have got this girl pregnant. Sperm are designed to find that egg and it only takes one good swimmer to get up there.
In future make sure you are using not only a condom but also apply spermicidal cream as this will kill any sperm released by a split in the condom. Remember too that sexually transmitted diseases need to be avoided too. Some are not as detectable as others and your girlfriend may be unaware that she has one. You don't want to get one or spread one. Even if your girlfriend says she is on the pill, at the end of the day it is YOUR responsibility for Your contraception and sexual health so don't trust anyone on this front. You'll be paying the bill for any girl having a child for 18 years.
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Post by: blakestyger on 01/01/2009 19:40:45
... not only a condom but also apply spermicidal cream

True, but then "Bond slipped into her effortlessly" would have to read "Bond lay back on one elbow watching his erection subside as she crashed about in the bathroom...".  
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Post by: Make it Lady on 01/01/2009 21:51:12
James Bond is a fictional character and doesn't have to live with the consequences! Wake up and smell the KY.
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Post by: RD on 01/01/2009 23:29:26
James Bond is a fictional character and doesn't have to live with the consequences

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Ian Fleming's literary James Bond smoked a lot - as many as 60 cigarettes a day.
http://www.mi6.co.uk/sections/articles/brosnan_smoking.php3

So Fleming's creation would be phlegmy.
Title: please help me
Post by: vorsillion on 02/01/2009 00:13:28
Vorsillion, I hope this is a lesson to you. You are worrying and worrying and worrying and yes there is a slim chance you could have got this girl pregnant. Sperm are designed to find that egg and it only takes one good swimmer to get up there.
In future make sure you are using not only a condom but also apply spermicidal cream as this will kill any sperm released by a split in the condom. Remember too that sexually transmitted diseases need to be avoided too. Some are not as detectable as others and your girlfriend may be unaware that she has one. You don't want to get one or spread one. Even if your girlfriend says she is on the pill, at the end of the day it is YOUR responsibility for Your contraception and sexual health so don't trust anyone on this front. You'll be paying the bill for any girl having a child for 18 years.

thanks for this advice... yes, it is a hellish lesson for me alright :)

oh and yeah, what are the symptoms if she could be pregnant? I mean, those that can be very obvious and be observed?
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Post by: Chemistry4me on 02/01/2009 01:10:39
Firstly her menstrual cycle will stop, that will be fairly obvious. During the first six weeks, the mother will notice that her breasts swell and become tender, increased tiredness, possibly nausea. Perhaps the ladies who have actually experienced preganancy first-hand will add to what I have written [8)]. Those are the things going on outside the body, if you want to know what is going on inside (and it is a lot more complicated) the body, just ask.... [:)]
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Post by: vorsillion on 02/01/2009 01:25:50
ok, probably the menstrual cycle will be my first priority... :)
Title: please help me
Post by: Chemistry4me on 02/01/2009 02:57:55
Yes, make sure that you do watch out for any other signs/symptoms...
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Post by: Make it Lady on 02/01/2009 21:58:39
It is not the best form of contraception and only should be used in an emergency but if you have unprotected sex you can get your girlfriend to take the morning after pill which is available from the pharmacy. You have to take it reasonably soon after sex or it doesn't work. This will abort any cells that have begun to develop. This is obviously up to your own moral judgement.
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Post by: Chemistry4me on 03/01/2009 02:59:20
How long are those pills meant to work? Like how many days after will it still work? It has been 3 already....
Title: please help me
Post by: vorsillion on 08/01/2009 13:42:34
and she is not pregnant because she had a menstruation last 2 days... yay! but one thing bothers me, why does she easily gets mad when she had her period? that thing bothers me...
Title: please help me
Post by: Karen W. on 08/01/2009 14:06:34
Well that is good news!

Listen..... sounds Like you both have had a huge lesson.. and have much to learn... During a womans cycle there are lots of things happening inside of her as her body cycles through its routine..It is quite normal for women to become less patient, irritable and really tired.. experience cramping general blah feeling bloating (water retention tender breasts and experience sweet cravings..chocolate is common... carbs is common...
 It is hard for her as well as those around the cycling woman sometimes. There are many things that can help ease the symptoms also..

Good luck.. and you two be careful and please take care.
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Post by: Nobody's Confidant on 08/01/2009 14:11:58
When light falls to strings, order's normal.
Just thought I'd throw that out there.
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Post by: Make it Lady on 08/01/2009 20:32:34
Throw it back in again!
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Post by: Make it Lady on 08/01/2009 20:37:33
Is girlfriend happy to take the contraceptive pill? If she get really bad mood swings, being on the pill could help her. If she still has mood swings she could try a pill that is taken all month around and stops her from having periods. This will do her no harm but some women don't like it as having a priod reassures them that the pill is working and she is not pregnant. I really good contraceptive is the marina coil. It is inserted into the womb and gives off a hormone. It is a very safe and effective contraceptive and stops all the mood swings completely. I recommend it.
Title: please help me
Post by: vorsillion on 08/01/2009 23:09:02
I see but that pill is very expensive in our area. So, in other words, the menstrual cycle can be a bit irritating and that is why women usually gets impatient... So, this will last for a couple of weeks right? I really have problems with this because I dont listen to this stuffs when I was in high school :D
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Post by: Make it Lady on 08/01/2009 23:16:41
I never met an adult that wished they had messed around more at school. Most wish they'd listened more and worked harder. Contraceptives should be free to all as far as I'm concerned. It is worth the investment, babies are much more expensive.