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Title: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Titanscape on 03/09/2004 17:44:59
Fellows, if you met a young woman and had been wanting to find a wife, that's a life long committed relationship, that you even enter into with a prayer, how faithful do you want her? Or him as it is in ladies' cases.

Let's say she or he is the right one but not being brought really well, perhaps because of divorce... She confesses to being almost unable to stop having sexual phantasies and sometimes maturbates. She is honest and then do you tell her to have phantasies of you only when she can't help herself or what if she says she respects you and can't bear to think of you that way?

And do you ask her not to look at porn and perve?


Titanscape
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: tweener on 08/09/2004 03:35:10
Don't try to change someone else.  It won't work and you'll both be miserable for the trying.  If you can't live with her the way she is, keep shopping.

----
John - The Eternal Pessimist.
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: olam on 25/08/2006 22:47:24
yes,keeping shopping you might see someone that you may love but not love you ........................if you love all wat she or he love and have may be by birth or other things love does not hate


creativity brings life
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 29/08/2006 19:18:41
quote:
Originally posted by tweener

Don't try to change someone else.  It won't work and you'll both be miserable for the trying.  If you can't live with her the way she is, keep shopping.

----
John - The Eternal Pessimist.



Exactly. People have their own little faults and habits. You can't change that or them. If you could change someone to be your perfect partner then it would be boring. There would be no excitement as nothing would catch you off guard.

Having fantasies is normal, it's also something that is very hard to stop, if not impossible. As long as the fantasies stay as fantasies then you shouldn't worry, it's when people try to act them out that trouble can follow. The same with masturbation, it's natural to fiddle, enjoy it, and dare I say it, join in. It's something that can make your sex life even more intense [;)]

Everyone has flaws, and to me these flaws attract me to a person. Granted some flaws are harder to accept, but if you really love the person you will accept it and even love them for it.

Everyone is unique and thank god

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: thayo on 29/08/2006 19:34:50
Mirage, of course flaws are parts of the very being of human. For one who believes he does not want to be flawed in any setting either in a family, work, friendship or intimate relationship must accept and acknowledge that the parties involved must have flaws even if they decide to conceal it from one's observation. To my best knowledge it solidifies relationship and makes stands the test of time.[:X][^][:)]

lets keep trying the untried since the birth of science innovations have been like  toy but their impacts have rocked the world
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 29/08/2006 19:42:11
Ummmm, yeah

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: thayo on 29/08/2006 20:06:26
Are you on track with that?

lets keep trying the untried since the birth of science innovations have been like  toy but their impacts have rocked the world
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Carolyn on 29/08/2006 20:14:39
quote:
Originally posted by Titanscape

Fellows, if you met a young woman and had been wanting to find a wife, that's a life long committed relationship, that you even enter into with a prayer, how faithful do you want her? Or him as it is in ladies' cases.

Let's say she or he is the right one but not being brought really well, perhaps because of divorce... She confesses to being almost unable to stop having sexual phantasies and sometimes maturbates. She is honest and then do you tell her to have phantasies of you only when she can't help herself or what if she says she respects you and can't bear to think of you that way?

And do you ask her not to look at porn and perve?


Titanscape



Hi Bren - Just out of curiosity, can she expect the same from you?  I don't think there is anything abnormal or immoral about having sexual fantasies (even if the fantasies aren't about your partner) or masturbating.  I'm speaking as a happily married woman of 19 years.  You can't force someone to only have fantasies of you and only you.  It just doesn't work like that.  I live on the coast and I see lots of gorgeous, half naked men.  You would be SHOCKED[:0]by what I was thinking (but my husband would'nt be surprised at all). Just as I am not shocked by him looking at half naked women.  I agree with Dan/Mirage.  Don't try to stop the fantasies - JOIN IN.  

Please bear in mind Bren, that what I said above, in my personal opinion is not acceptable for casual relationships. If you, or anyone else is looking for and expecting perfection in a relationship, you're in for a lonely life.  Good luck to you.

Carolyn
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: thayo on 29/08/2006 20:32:44
Fantasies have come to stay, it only needs one careful mind to hand it, perfection seem not be a quality of created beings like ours, Carolyn, is it not time to initiate fantasies club.............don't you concur

lets keep trying the untried since the birth of science innovations have been like  toy but their impacts have rocked the world
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: another_someone on 29/08/2006 21:04:47
quote:
Originally posted by Mirage
Exactly. People have their own little faults and habits. You can't change that or them. If you could change someone to be your perfect partner then it would be boring. There would be no excitement as nothing would catch you off guard.

Having fantasies is normal, it's also something that is very hard to stop, if not impossible. As long as the fantasies stay as fantasies then you shouldn't worry, it's when people try to act them out that trouble can follow. The same with masturbation, it's natural to fiddle, enjoy it, and dare I say it, join in. It's something that can make your sex life even more intense [;)]

Everyone has flaws, and to me these flaws attract me to a person. Granted some flaws are harder to accept, but if you really love the person you will accept it and even love them for it.

Everyone is unique and thank god



I would go further – how can you even have a relationship with a perfect person.  Don't relationships depend upon mutual need, and it is only by the inadequacies of an individual that the individual can come to need someone else.

The other problem with perfection is that when you add up all of the characteristics of whom you would consider to be a perfect person, or a perfect partner – you would find them so riddled with contradictions that no human being could fulfil one requirement without violating another requirement somewhere else.  This, by the way, is also another reason why I don't believe it is possible to consider the the notion of a perfect God – and how could one ever have a truly human relationship with a God or Godess.



George
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 29/08/2006 21:15:11
I agree.

There is no perfect someone, it's a myth. You can have a lot in common with someone, love lots of things about that someone, but they will never be perfect. The strange thing is, you may well refer to them as being your perfect someone though.

To be honest at this point I have no idea if what I have said makes any sense as my brain still hasn't fully rebooted yet. Plus I don't feel very deep tonight [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 29/08/2006 23:23:13
That was nice Dan and  what lovely thoughts. Nice to see you still postin!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Carolyn on 30/08/2006 04:16:52
quote:
Originally posted by Mirage



I agree.

There is no perfect someone, it's a myth. You can have a lot in common with someone, love lots of things about that someone, but they will never be perfect. The strange thing is, you may well refer to them as being your perfect someone though.

To be honest at this point I have no idea if what I have said makes any sense as my brain still hasn't fully rebooted yet. Plus I don't feel very deep tonight [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps



I agree Dan. Perfection is a fairy tale.  However, I posted in another thread "perfect combinations", that studmuffin and myself were a perfect combo.  I believe that.  We are so different.  Growin up he was the wild child, trouble making hellion, and I was the goody goody, Daddy's little girl.   It truly is comical.  But that works for us.  He's one of the biggest A**hole s-o-b I've ever met.  I'm not so easy to live with either.  Most of the time, we agree on everything.  Sometimes we have big monster arguments.  We always work through it.  Sometimes I even let him win.[;)]  The bottom line is this.  I trust my husband with my life and more importantly, the lives of my children.  And he, I hope, feels the same about me.  For me, that's as close to perfection as one can hope to get.

Ok all this mushy stuff is making me nauseated.

Carolyn
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 30/08/2006 05:16:40
Yes, It is making one nauseated here...lol

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 30/08/2006 05:21:12
I love it!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 30/08/2006 05:27:45
You are the queen of romance!

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: thayo on 30/08/2006 08:50:40
who then happens to be the King, prince and princess

lets keep trying the untried since the birth of science innovations have been like  toy but their impacts have rocked the world
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Grecian on 30/08/2006 10:05:12

I love it too, more, more, more.

As I don't beleive that it could happen to me, I want to read

it from you lovely peeps here.

Enough to sustain me for the 2wks that I will be away for on my

hols. LOL


Love you lots

Helena  xxx







Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: another_someone on 30/08/2006 12:04:34
quote:
Originally posted by thayo

who then happens to be the King, prince and princess

lets keep trying the untried since the birth of science innovations have been like  toy but their impacts have rocked the world



Oh, I'm sure we have lots of princes and princesses - or at least pretenders to the throne [:)]  But not every prince or princess gets to be a King or a Queen.



George
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 30/08/2006 12:11:59
So True George.
  Good morning my nice friend! Sleep came to me in a 7 and 1/2 hour block and I thank you for easing my spirit and helping me to sleep!! Thanks friend!


Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 30/08/2006 16:31:37
quote:
Originally posted by Carolyn

quote:
Originally posted by Mirage



I agree.

There is no perfect someone, it's a myth. You can have a lot in common with someone, love lots of things about that someone, but they will never be perfect. The strange thing is, you may well refer to them as being your perfect someone though.

To be honest at this point I have no idea if what I have said makes any sense as my brain still hasn't fully rebooted yet. Plus I don't feel very deep tonight [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps



I agree Dan. Perfection is a fairy tale.  However, I posted in another thread "perfect combinations", that studmuffin and myself were a perfect combo.  I believe that.  We are so different.  Growin up he was the wild child, trouble making hellion, and I was the goody goody, Daddy's little girl.   It truly is comical.  But that works for us.  He's one of the biggest A**hole s-o-b I've ever met.  I'm not so easy to live with either.  Most of the time, we agree on everything.  Sometimes we have big monster arguments.  We always work through it.  Sometimes I even let him win.[;)]  The bottom line is this.  I trust my husband with my life and more importantly, the lives of my children.  And he, I hope, feels the same about me.  For me, that's as close to perfection as one can hope to get.

Ok all this mushy stuff is making me nauseated.

Carolyn




It sounds like you both excite each other with not being able to agree sometimes and so argue. To me it all comes down to the little things that can get under your skin, not in a big way, so you find your parnter exciting and interesting. I want someone who isn't going to agree with me all the time, have silly agruments and then make up again. I want to be interested in what a partner has to say, the way she thinks. The 'perfect' partner for me is someone who has similar traits to me but is completely different.....if that makes any sense.



Thank you Karen [:X]




Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Carolyn on 30/08/2006 16:50:44
Makes perfect sense to me.  In fact, hubby and I are having a small disagreement now.  I'm very annoyed with him.  He will be coming home for lunch soon.  I'm sure we'll argue at lunch but look forward to the making up for dessert.

Carolyn

Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 30/08/2006 16:57:54
Good, I wasn't sure as sometimes what I say doesn't always make sense.

So whipped cream for dessert then  (https://www.thenakedscientists.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fpages.infinit.net%2Fbluefire%2FImages%2Fnaughtywiggle.gif&hash=561b65eae1005a08e350f7498e092463) [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: another_someone on 30/08/2006 17:12:12
I don't do arguments well – maybe that is one of the reasons why I have never been in a long term romantic relationship – but I would hate to be with someone who always agreed with me (in fact, I find nothing more disconcerting than having people agree with me – it makes me feel I should be disagreeing with myself).



George
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 30/08/2006 17:24:17
........... I agree......... (https://www.thenakedscientists.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fpages.infinit.net%2Fbluefire%2FImages%2Ftheyareontome.gif&hash=a6a6c8153613ed60caca43ecef0dd213)

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 31/08/2006 04:26:20
LOL  Should I or shouldn't I agree....where is Shakespeare when I need'em![:(]

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 04:32:39
I am staying in a nuetral position as I hate arguing bit, i can be good at it if I have to!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 31/08/2006 04:37:23
LOL  I think arguing is healthy, wouldn't you agree...(according to those who like to make up anyways!) LOL  Okay, maybe I do run off to my bedroom to hide to avoid it...but why fight, the results will still be the same...ta ta ta!!

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 04:46:59
25 years and I still don't like to argue. That doesn't mean I don't like to have a nice dicussion. no arguing but to talk like rational humans. I do know their are times when moments can be heated, I still don't like it though tends to make me sick.I avoid it where possible.

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Carolyn on 31/08/2006 05:25:24
Well we did argue at lunch, but weren't able to reach an agreement until much later.  I don't mind simple arguments/disagreements. Those are normal, and I also think healthy to some degree. Big arguments make me sick too.  I'm an emotional fighter and generally say things I regret later.  Usually regret it as soon as I say it.  Thankfully, those arguments are few and far between.


Carolyn
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 31/08/2006 05:28:12
Just avoid it if possible...I can't right now unless I hide out in my bedroom...as it will not change my mind about my decision...it is stressful!!Aaagghh!

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 05:48:46
Boy Loretta I hear ya!! We have never had big arguements. The only big problem was when he cheated, wow that was the biggie in 25 years that is the only one i think we have ever had. It was the worse pain and anger I had felt until recently! I guess for 25 years thats not to bad. Our problem didn't lie there . Just isn't what it should be. I have tried but he doesn't want to make an effort so we are at a stalemate. Life is so weird.
  Carolyn you and hubby sound great and I think you must have a very special relationship!
  I think my husband and I do, but it is not one of marraige. We both care about each other, trust him with my life always have. But not with my heart. If you can't intrust your heart to the one you love then you really can never love freely and give all of your love so something is always missing.I can be pretty intense and I think that is very hard for him. He was not raised with the emotional expressions of love. In 25 years i may have recied 3 kisses in public...Whooooo. Thrills!! Its not his fault he just is not comfortable with open displays of love not even a kiss in front of his kids, very rare!He openly showed affection to them untill they were teenagers then it just disappeared as if they did not need it anymore... I had to prod him to hug his daughter win her first boyfriend broke he heart! He just doesn't get it! Oh well, I am glad someones hubby gets it!!!LOL

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 31/08/2006 06:39:11
I know what you mean Karen...so sad.  I admire you for staying married that length of time...

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 08:39:06
Hes a good man, We just have moved apart we are friends, although the tension sometimes worries me that we won't remain that way if we do not make some decisions.

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 16:36:39
I really like you guys, you're all so honest about your feelings, I think it is wonderful.
You are all starting to become very close to me, I can't really explain it, all I know is when someone has a good heart it attract me to them. You all attract me because you are all lovely, lovely isn't the word, you are all so very beautiful to me.

I agree with you all about agruing. I hate it, I never had the stomach for it. My ex and I used to argue all the time, I told her I hated arguing so I guess she made up more reasons to argue with me all the time. Safe to say that is the reason why we split, well, one of them that is [;)] Even though we did argue we made up pretty quickly, most of the time, however most of the time I just kept my mouth shut and accepted everything.
I guess it came down to that we didn't communicate well with each other. Communication is key to any relationship. Could say that we communicated like being on a mobile while driving through a tunnel and losing the signal all the time.....it was nice to have peace and quiet though, that was my favourite part of it all [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 17:44:26
 Yes I felt the same way for years but it builds up inside and one becomes bitter from swallowing words and feelings and being styfled. It makes one bitter and distant . That is not how I want to live. I love life and music and fun and smiles I need smiles so much now. I love this forum it has brightened my heart and helped me find a part of me that has been lost for so long. I knew it was hiding  but I couldn't coax it back out for the life of me. I am pretty much a softy and a romantic fool, but that is the real me and the part that has been hiding away because people close to me hate this about me. I'm just a mush pot of emotions and can't not say how I feel. I'm supposed to suck it up and take it on the chin, and the older I get the less sucking it up  I can do! I dispise arguing and do not mind simply talking and listening and discussing, but arguing does indeed bother me, we have all done it and wow, its terrible. I do not do well with confrontations or fighting or violence on Tv or otherwise. Makes me physically ill! I thinkits my bodies way of protecting myself. If I am sick and over in the loo, I don't have to argue right!!!LOL Maybe thats it who knows why one  emotions make one feel as they do! I just know that I am going to allow my emotions to aid me in whatever means are appropriate for me!! I cannot afford to allow myself to get back in a whole and cover up my head. No more sucking it up! If I'm sad then dang it I'm sad. If I am full or joy or crap, then so be it. Thats the way it is. At least I know who I am again and maybe thats not so bad!!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 18:10:46
You should be true to yourself, and if some people don't like certain qualities then it's their hard luck. You are a wonderful person and should not be left to feel that you must hide these amazing qualities. Let them shine, let yourself shine and once you do, better people will start noticing and be drawn to you. I'm sure that a lot of people on here are drawn to you, I know I am. You have a great heart, a lovely personality, smart and you definitely have a great sense of humour

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 18:17:20
I am afraid my sense of humor is pretty low, I am pretty naieve sometimes as i said alot of things just fly over my head and do not bother stopping to allow me to get it!! Takes me  awhile. Some things I am quicker at but not humor. LOL I am greatful for these 3 little letters, LOL or I might get into serious trouble sometimes and take things wrong! Thanks for your encouragement your a nice fellow! How old are you? Do you mind me asking or is that a secret?

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: another_someone on 31/08/2006 18:25:40
quote:
Originally posted by Mirage
Could say that we communicated like being on a mobile while driving through a tunnel and losing the signal all the time



Nobody told you you should not be communicating on a mobile at all while driving, much less when driving through tunnels [:)][}:)]



George
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 18:27:24
How old would everyone like me to be? [;)]

I'm really 23, 24 come November. Sometimes I feel at least 77 and a half

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 18:30:05
quote:
Originally posted by another_someone

quote:
Originally posted by Mirage
Could say that we communicated like being on a mobile while driving through a tunnel and losing the signal all the time



Nobody told you you should not be communicating on a mobile at all while driving, much less when driving through tunnels [:)][}:)]



George




I would have been fine if we had crashed.....no airbag my side....peace and quiet [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 18:32:32
AAHH your just a babe!!  No wonder you are having so much fun!!! You are too funny , who'd a thunk!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: another_someone on 31/08/2006 18:32:52
I was thinking about the communication gap in relationships, and it happens all too often.

Dan has said about people writing about how they feel on this forum, and it occurred to me that it is actually sometimes easier to write out your feelings than to talk about them.  Maybe couples should write to each other more often to say the things they may be embarrassed to say, or fearful that they would be interrupted mid flow, and only have half said what they wanted to say.

Writing things out can give you the space to properly think out what it is you want to say, put it down, and even alter it, before blurting out the wrong thing.



George
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 18:34:26
OH don't think like that bad omens, LOL

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Carolyn on 31/08/2006 18:36:49
George - you are so right.  I can't tell you how many times I've thought of this very thing.  It would definately cut down on my "things I regret" list.  

Carolyn
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 19:13:50
quote:
Originally posted by Karen W.

AAHH your just a babe!!  No wonder you are having so much fun!!! You are too funny , who'd a thunk!!

Karen



Why thank you.

I may well be young but I feel that my mind has aged at an incredible rate. I became a security guard near the end of my teens and from all the responsibility I was given came things that I had to learn to understand. There are some things that have happened that I can't talk about, can't bring myself to do so. I have seen many horrors of working in a notorious area, things that have left me in some sense of shock for quite sometime. Once you leave any form of school life you're never quite prepared for the things that you will encounter or have to deal with. On a daily basis you can be left feeling stressed, sad, and shock from whatever befell you that day. There are good days, but hey, that's life, always some new surprise for you.

George, I find it easier to write how I feel, there is only really one person who I can talk to and share a lot of secrets with. My best mate Jon has been my rock through the years, love him to bits.
I totally agree with you though, writing does give you the space you need. That's why I love to write.

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 19:23:33
Your right george about righting I have tried for 25 years to get my husband to write down what he feels, the closest he has ever come was while driving long haul across the country, His heart was with me in his emails. Not since what a shame. I wish things were different but sometimes things happen for the best even when they feel like the worst!!

 DAn I understand where you are comming from and my young life was wrought with pain shock and humiliation and I have the same release in writing. I try not to share the painful writing as it is just for myself. Choose better to write of love happiness and good things so as not to dwell on the bad!!! You are fortunate to have such a friend and confident!


Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 19:27:05
I do prefer to write more about love rather than pain but the painful memories never fade, and for me I need them. It helps me through whatever painful moment could be next. I use a lot of my experiences to learn how to better myself and to be a better person all round.

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 19:30:20
Yep me too. Her I am wrote you that last post and now I am crying , see what I mean, realizations are tough sometimes you know!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 19:33:01
Aww don't cry hun [:X]

If you need something to make you laugh have a look at me dressed up as Fred Flintstone in the what do you look like thread.

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 19:40:23
Yeah I saw that very cute! Where was wilma? Did not see her there!
 No worries I cry all the time, teary thing I am especilly lately!


Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 19:43:00
Wilma was there, but not for long. She had to be in work early the next day.

I can get a little misty but haven't been able to cry since a girl broke my heart

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 20:13:22
I am so sorry I could loan you some tears as my robe is soaked. I am a basket case I guess , tried to not let em out but like certain parts of my anatomy, they could not be reined in!! Waterfall much , you got any barrels we could climb in and go for  a ride.... Look out niagra falls!! Here I come!LOL

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 20:20:28
You nutter [;)] although Niagra Falls does sound like fun.



Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 21:06:53
Always wanted to go there. When I was a kid it was the hot spot for honeymooning! So Beautiful! I don't know how I would do as I can't swim never could tried to drown several times, but fortuneately for me was unsuccessful! LOL

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 21:12:26
I've always loved swimming. I used to be in the best at school but then a girl came along and beat me. I didn't like her very much, I first learnt about competition at that point, when I was 10 [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 21:28:26
Do girls whipping your butt bug you! Huh LOL You are funny indeed... I am a girl of many talents, but swimming aint one of them!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 21:34:09
I was only whipped a couple of times, it was ok, but can hurt if not done right or done too hard [B)] [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 21:42:33
yeah, I hear you! works both ways!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 21:47:50
Well that's just kinky

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 21:52:37
Oh my gosh... see thats what I mean that went right over my head! I had to read it several times before I knew what you meant!! YOWWSA... SORRY!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 21:58:18
(https://www.thenakedscientists.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fpages.infinit.net%2Fbluefire%2FImages%2Flol1lm.gif&hash=987917a3cc3aa335411f36219abb1fcd)
     
Awww bless [:)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 22:02:18
Yeah keep laughing when it happens to you I'll be sure to remember that little snicker! Right?LOL[;)]

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 22:07:56
I'm sure I would laugh as well in the end [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 22:19:52
Yes I am sure you would as you have a good sense of humor!


Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 22:23:20
Why thank you.

It's probably mainly because I laugh a lot, especially if I don't know what is going on. A thing that has saved me a few times, especially when in female company is the good old smile and nod [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 22:27:20
Man don't you know we all do that!!! you are not alone in that department!! At least you admit it!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 22:28:45
Course I admit it, but not to the people I do it too, that would just be silly [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 22:31:44
You got a point there , Light bulb moment for me...LOL man sometimes I am such a dork!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 22:36:35
It's not dork it's tool, you're a tool [;)] You're not really, you're neither of those, instead you're lovely [:)]

Bye for now [:X]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 22:40:56
Bye Dan Have a nice evening!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 01/09/2006 02:11:25
quote:
Originally posted by Mirage

You nutter [;)] although Niagra Falls does sound like fun.



Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps



Beautiful and the Canadian side is bigger and much more beautiful!!! Breathtaking is the word for it![:)]

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 30/08/2006 05:27:45
You are the queen of romance!

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: thayo on 30/08/2006 08:50:40
who then happens to be the King, prince and princess

lets keep trying the untried since the birth of science innovations have been like  toy but their impacts have rocked the world
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Grecian on 30/08/2006 10:05:12

I love it too, more, more, more.

As I don't beleive that it could happen to me, I want to read

it from you lovely peeps here.

Enough to sustain me for the 2wks that I will be away for on my

hols. LOL


Love you lots

Helena  xxx







Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: another_someone on 30/08/2006 12:04:34
quote:
Originally posted by thayo

who then happens to be the King, prince and princess

lets keep trying the untried since the birth of science innovations have been like  toy but their impacts have rocked the world



Oh, I'm sure we have lots of princes and princesses - or at least pretenders to the throne [:)]  But not every prince or princess gets to be a King or a Queen.



George
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 30/08/2006 12:11:59
So True George.
  Good morning my nice friend! Sleep came to me in a 7 and 1/2 hour block and I thank you for easing my spirit and helping me to sleep!! Thanks friend!


Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 30/08/2006 16:31:37
quote:
Originally posted by Carolyn

quote:
Originally posted by Mirage



I agree.

There is no perfect someone, it's a myth. You can have a lot in common with someone, love lots of things about that someone, but they will never be perfect. The strange thing is, you may well refer to them as being your perfect someone though.

To be honest at this point I have no idea if what I have said makes any sense as my brain still hasn't fully rebooted yet. Plus I don't feel very deep tonight [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps



I agree Dan. Perfection is a fairy tale.  However, I posted in another thread "perfect combinations", that studmuffin and myself were a perfect combo.  I believe that.  We are so different.  Growin up he was the wild child, trouble making hellion, and I was the goody goody, Daddy's little girl.   It truly is comical.  But that works for us.  He's one of the biggest A**hole s-o-b I've ever met.  I'm not so easy to live with either.  Most of the time, we agree on everything.  Sometimes we have big monster arguments.  We always work through it.  Sometimes I even let him win.[;)]  The bottom line is this.  I trust my husband with my life and more importantly, the lives of my children.  And he, I hope, feels the same about me.  For me, that's as close to perfection as one can hope to get.

Ok all this mushy stuff is making me nauseated.

Carolyn




It sounds like you both excite each other with not being able to agree sometimes and so argue. To me it all comes down to the little things that can get under your skin, not in a big way, so you find your parnter exciting and interesting. I want someone who isn't going to agree with me all the time, have silly agruments and then make up again. I want to be interested in what a partner has to say, the way she thinks. The 'perfect' partner for me is someone who has similar traits to me but is completely different.....if that makes any sense.



Thank you Karen [:X]




Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Carolyn on 30/08/2006 16:50:44
Makes perfect sense to me.  In fact, hubby and I are having a small disagreement now.  I'm very annoyed with him.  He will be coming home for lunch soon.  I'm sure we'll argue at lunch but look forward to the making up for dessert.

Carolyn

Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 30/08/2006 16:57:54
Good, I wasn't sure as sometimes what I say doesn't always make sense.

So whipped cream for dessert then  (https://www.thenakedscientists.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fpages.infinit.net%2Fbluefire%2FImages%2Fnaughtywiggle.gif&hash=561b65eae1005a08e350f7498e092463) [;)]

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Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: another_someone on 30/08/2006 17:12:12
I don't do arguments well – maybe that is one of the reasons why I have never been in a long term romantic relationship – but I would hate to be with someone who always agreed with me (in fact, I find nothing more disconcerting than having people agree with me – it makes me feel I should be disagreeing with myself).



George
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 30/08/2006 17:24:17
........... I agree......... (https://www.thenakedscientists.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fpages.infinit.net%2Fbluefire%2FImages%2Ftheyareontome.gif&hash=a6a6c8153613ed60caca43ecef0dd213)

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Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 31/08/2006 04:26:20
LOL  Should I or shouldn't I agree....where is Shakespeare when I need'em![:(]

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 04:32:39
I am staying in a nuetral position as I hate arguing bit, i can be good at it if I have to!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 31/08/2006 04:37:23
LOL  I think arguing is healthy, wouldn't you agree...(according to those who like to make up anyways!) LOL  Okay, maybe I do run off to my bedroom to hide to avoid it...but why fight, the results will still be the same...ta ta ta!!

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 04:46:59
25 years and I still don't like to argue. That doesn't mean I don't like to have a nice dicussion. no arguing but to talk like rational humans. I do know their are times when moments can be heated, I still don't like it though tends to make me sick.I avoid it where possible.

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Carolyn on 31/08/2006 05:25:24
Well we did argue at lunch, but weren't able to reach an agreement until much later.  I don't mind simple arguments/disagreements. Those are normal, and I also think healthy to some degree. Big arguments make me sick too.  I'm an emotional fighter and generally say things I regret later.  Usually regret it as soon as I say it.  Thankfully, those arguments are few and far between.


Carolyn
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 31/08/2006 05:28:12
Just avoid it if possible...I can't right now unless I hide out in my bedroom...as it will not change my mind about my decision...it is stressful!!Aaagghh!

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 05:48:46
Boy Loretta I hear ya!! We have never had big arguements. The only big problem was when he cheated, wow that was the biggie in 25 years that is the only one i think we have ever had. It was the worse pain and anger I had felt until recently! I guess for 25 years thats not to bad. Our problem didn't lie there . Just isn't what it should be. I have tried but he doesn't want to make an effort so we are at a stalemate. Life is so weird.
  Carolyn you and hubby sound great and I think you must have a very special relationship!
  I think my husband and I do, but it is not one of marraige. We both care about each other, trust him with my life always have. But not with my heart. If you can't intrust your heart to the one you love then you really can never love freely and give all of your love so something is always missing.I can be pretty intense and I think that is very hard for him. He was not raised with the emotional expressions of love. In 25 years i may have recied 3 kisses in public...Whooooo. Thrills!! Its not his fault he just is not comfortable with open displays of love not even a kiss in front of his kids, very rare!He openly showed affection to them untill they were teenagers then it just disappeared as if they did not need it anymore... I had to prod him to hug his daughter win her first boyfriend broke he heart! He just doesn't get it! Oh well, I am glad someones hubby gets it!!!LOL

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 31/08/2006 06:39:11
I know what you mean Karen...so sad.  I admire you for staying married that length of time...

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 08:39:06
Hes a good man, We just have moved apart we are friends, although the tension sometimes worries me that we won't remain that way if we do not make some decisions.

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 16:36:39
I really like you guys, you're all so honest about your feelings, I think it is wonderful.
You are all starting to become very close to me, I can't really explain it, all I know is when someone has a good heart it attract me to them. You all attract me because you are all lovely, lovely isn't the word, you are all so very beautiful to me.

I agree with you all about agruing. I hate it, I never had the stomach for it. My ex and I used to argue all the time, I told her I hated arguing so I guess she made up more reasons to argue with me all the time. Safe to say that is the reason why we split, well, one of them that is [;)] Even though we did argue we made up pretty quickly, most of the time, however most of the time I just kept my mouth shut and accepted everything.
I guess it came down to that we didn't communicate well with each other. Communication is key to any relationship. Could say that we communicated like being on a mobile while driving through a tunnel and losing the signal all the time.....it was nice to have peace and quiet though, that was my favourite part of it all [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 17:44:26
 Yes I felt the same way for years but it builds up inside and one becomes bitter from swallowing words and feelings and being styfled. It makes one bitter and distant . That is not how I want to live. I love life and music and fun and smiles I need smiles so much now. I love this forum it has brightened my heart and helped me find a part of me that has been lost for so long. I knew it was hiding  but I couldn't coax it back out for the life of me. I am pretty much a softy and a romantic fool, but that is the real me and the part that has been hiding away because people close to me hate this about me. I'm just a mush pot of emotions and can't not say how I feel. I'm supposed to suck it up and take it on the chin, and the older I get the less sucking it up  I can do! I dispise arguing and do not mind simply talking and listening and discussing, but arguing does indeed bother me, we have all done it and wow, its terrible. I do not do well with confrontations or fighting or violence on Tv or otherwise. Makes me physically ill! I thinkits my bodies way of protecting myself. If I am sick and over in the loo, I don't have to argue right!!!LOL Maybe thats it who knows why one  emotions make one feel as they do! I just know that I am going to allow my emotions to aid me in whatever means are appropriate for me!! I cannot afford to allow myself to get back in a whole and cover up my head. No more sucking it up! If I'm sad then dang it I'm sad. If I am full or joy or crap, then so be it. Thats the way it is. At least I know who I am again and maybe thats not so bad!!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 18:10:46
You should be true to yourself, and if some people don't like certain qualities then it's their hard luck. You are a wonderful person and should not be left to feel that you must hide these amazing qualities. Let them shine, let yourself shine and once you do, better people will start noticing and be drawn to you. I'm sure that a lot of people on here are drawn to you, I know I am. You have a great heart, a lovely personality, smart and you definitely have a great sense of humour

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 18:17:20
I am afraid my sense of humor is pretty low, I am pretty naieve sometimes as i said alot of things just fly over my head and do not bother stopping to allow me to get it!! Takes me  awhile. Some things I am quicker at but not humor. LOL I am greatful for these 3 little letters, LOL or I might get into serious trouble sometimes and take things wrong! Thanks for your encouragement your a nice fellow! How old are you? Do you mind me asking or is that a secret?

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: another_someone on 31/08/2006 18:25:40
quote:
Originally posted by Mirage
Could say that we communicated like being on a mobile while driving through a tunnel and losing the signal all the time



Nobody told you you should not be communicating on a mobile at all while driving, much less when driving through tunnels [:)][}:)]



George
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 18:27:24
How old would everyone like me to be? [;)]

I'm really 23, 24 come November. Sometimes I feel at least 77 and a half

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 18:30:05
quote:
Originally posted by another_someone

quote:
Originally posted by Mirage
Could say that we communicated like being on a mobile while driving through a tunnel and losing the signal all the time



Nobody told you you should not be communicating on a mobile at all while driving, much less when driving through tunnels [:)][}:)]



George




I would have been fine if we had crashed.....no airbag my side....peace and quiet [;)]

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Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 18:32:32
AAHH your just a babe!!  No wonder you are having so much fun!!! You are too funny , who'd a thunk!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: another_someone on 31/08/2006 18:32:52
I was thinking about the communication gap in relationships, and it happens all too often.

Dan has said about people writing about how they feel on this forum, and it occurred to me that it is actually sometimes easier to write out your feelings than to talk about them.  Maybe couples should write to each other more often to say the things they may be embarrassed to say, or fearful that they would be interrupted mid flow, and only have half said what they wanted to say.

Writing things out can give you the space to properly think out what it is you want to say, put it down, and even alter it, before blurting out the wrong thing.



George
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 18:34:26
OH don't think like that bad omens, LOL

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Carolyn on 31/08/2006 18:36:49
George - you are so right.  I can't tell you how many times I've thought of this very thing.  It would definately cut down on my "things I regret" list.  

Carolyn
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 19:13:50
quote:
Originally posted by Karen W.

AAHH your just a babe!!  No wonder you are having so much fun!!! You are too funny , who'd a thunk!!

Karen



Why thank you.

I may well be young but I feel that my mind has aged at an incredible rate. I became a security guard near the end of my teens and from all the responsibility I was given came things that I had to learn to understand. There are some things that have happened that I can't talk about, can't bring myself to do so. I have seen many horrors of working in a notorious area, things that have left me in some sense of shock for quite sometime. Once you leave any form of school life you're never quite prepared for the things that you will encounter or have to deal with. On a daily basis you can be left feeling stressed, sad, and shock from whatever befell you that day. There are good days, but hey, that's life, always some new surprise for you.

George, I find it easier to write how I feel, there is only really one person who I can talk to and share a lot of secrets with. My best mate Jon has been my rock through the years, love him to bits.
I totally agree with you though, writing does give you the space you need. That's why I love to write.

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 19:23:33
Your right george about righting I have tried for 25 years to get my husband to write down what he feels, the closest he has ever come was while driving long haul across the country, His heart was with me in his emails. Not since what a shame. I wish things were different but sometimes things happen for the best even when they feel like the worst!!

 DAn I understand where you are comming from and my young life was wrought with pain shock and humiliation and I have the same release in writing. I try not to share the painful writing as it is just for myself. Choose better to write of love happiness and good things so as not to dwell on the bad!!! You are fortunate to have such a friend and confident!


Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 19:27:05
I do prefer to write more about love rather than pain but the painful memories never fade, and for me I need them. It helps me through whatever painful moment could be next. I use a lot of my experiences to learn how to better myself and to be a better person all round.

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 19:30:20
Yep me too. Her I am wrote you that last post and now I am crying , see what I mean, realizations are tough sometimes you know!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 19:33:01
Aww don't cry hun [:X]

If you need something to make you laugh have a look at me dressed up as Fred Flintstone in the what do you look like thread.

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 19:40:23
Yeah I saw that very cute! Where was wilma? Did not see her there!
 No worries I cry all the time, teary thing I am especilly lately!


Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 19:43:00
Wilma was there, but not for long. She had to be in work early the next day.

I can get a little misty but haven't been able to cry since a girl broke my heart

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 20:13:22
I am so sorry I could loan you some tears as my robe is soaked. I am a basket case I guess , tried to not let em out but like certain parts of my anatomy, they could not be reined in!! Waterfall much , you got any barrels we could climb in and go for  a ride.... Look out niagra falls!! Here I come!LOL

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 20:20:28
You nutter [;)] although Niagra Falls does sound like fun.



Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 21:06:53
Always wanted to go there. When I was a kid it was the hot spot for honeymooning! So Beautiful! I don't know how I would do as I can't swim never could tried to drown several times, but fortuneately for me was unsuccessful! LOL

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 21:12:26
I've always loved swimming. I used to be in the best at school but then a girl came along and beat me. I didn't like her very much, I first learnt about competition at that point, when I was 10 [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 21:28:26
Do girls whipping your butt bug you! Huh LOL You are funny indeed... I am a girl of many talents, but swimming aint one of them!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 21:34:09
I was only whipped a couple of times, it was ok, but can hurt if not done right or done too hard [B)] [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 21:42:33
yeah, I hear you! works both ways!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 21:47:50
Well that's just kinky

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 21:52:37
Oh my gosh... see thats what I mean that went right over my head! I had to read it several times before I knew what you meant!! YOWWSA... SORRY!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 21:58:18
(https://www.thenakedscientists.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fpages.infinit.net%2Fbluefire%2FImages%2Flol1lm.gif&hash=987917a3cc3aa335411f36219abb1fcd)
     
Awww bless [:)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 22:02:18
Yeah keep laughing when it happens to you I'll be sure to remember that little snicker! Right?LOL[;)]

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 22:07:56
I'm sure I would laugh as well in the end [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 22:19:52
Yes I am sure you would as you have a good sense of humor!


Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 22:23:20
Why thank you.

It's probably mainly because I laugh a lot, especially if I don't know what is going on. A thing that has saved me a few times, especially when in female company is the good old smile and nod [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 22:27:20
Man don't you know we all do that!!! you are not alone in that department!! At least you admit it!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 22:28:45
Course I admit it, but not to the people I do it too, that would just be silly [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 22:31:44
You got a point there , Light bulb moment for me...LOL man sometimes I am such a dork!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 31/08/2006 22:36:35
It's not dork it's tool, you're a tool [;)] You're not really, you're neither of those, instead you're lovely [:)]

Bye for now [:X]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 31/08/2006 22:40:56
Bye Dan Have a nice evening!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 01/09/2006 02:11:25
quote:
Originally posted by Mirage

You nutter [;)] although Niagra Falls does sound like fun.



Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps



Beautiful and the Canadian side is bigger and much more beautiful!!! Breathtaking is the word for it![:)]

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 01/09/2006 02:39:04
OHHH I Would love to see it someday!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 01/09/2006 03:12:15
Go to the Canadian side...it is soooooo, worth it!!!!

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 01/09/2006 03:28:07
I will remember that Loretta! WAS it fun?

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 01/09/2006 03:36:46
Yeah baby!  I think I have been there at least 20 times...had a boyfriend at the time...it was very romantic...

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 01/09/2006 03:44:40
Thats what I here!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 01/09/2006 03:50:20
It is...listened to live music, had some great food!  Fireworks are fantabulous there too!


"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 01/09/2006 03:54:16
Sounds like alot of fun.

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 01/09/2006 04:52:41
It was...so, so fun...

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 01/09/2006 07:01:51
Yep have to put it on my list of hot spots to go!!! Just about anywhere is a hot spot for me!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 01/09/2006 14:01:24
LOL  be careful hon...that could be taken in the wrong direction...LOL

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 01/09/2006 16:42:38
Loretta you are so fuuny... I looked at that with my sleepy eyes and went whoops must see what I said... can't remember.LOLAhhh Hot spots.... worried I was insulting a whole nation again!!! Yikes glad its just funny ha ha!!LOL

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 01/09/2006 19:00:07
No, you aren't just over here in the US...LOL  Have eyebrows going up for sure...hehe  I love it when you write sleepily...hehe

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 01/09/2006 19:32:29
I am glad you are here today... Wheres Dan? Am I too early?? THought I might try talking his ear again today, like yours... You might have a reprieve unless you care to join in....

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 02/09/2006 02:06:03
Unfortunately, I was busy again after lunch and had to jump in and post money for the Asst. Manger...geez

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 02/09/2006 02:23:51
I was wondering what happened and had my suspicions!! HE HE! I knew you had work to do!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 02/09/2006 04:35:11
You know one day, I am going to just come to work and throw my work ethics out the window!  Crudola!

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 02/09/2006 04:36:51
YAAAAY!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 02/09/2006 05:44:42
You are wild woman!  ;-)

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 02/09/2006 05:58:35
MOI Wild, NO !! NOT AT ALL! Crazy maybe a touch!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 02/09/2006 07:09:35
LOL  It is okay on this side of the padded cell...come on in and join me...it doesn't hurt so bad when you beat your head on the pads...hehe

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 02/09/2006 07:19:00
If I recall that makes 3 of us in all. I remember Neil in one cell I'm in one and you are in one too. We need to find Carolyn, she was not fairing well tonight had some troubles at home... Make way we need one more padded cell please!! Lets have a party!! I wish I knew how to import pics, We would have a party,,,cool!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 02/09/2006 07:43:09
I see, a padded cell par-tayyyyy!  Woo Hoo!  LOL Headbanging music right?

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 02/09/2006 08:46:07
Sounds nice and cozy....warm and friendly....LOL

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 02/09/2006 09:50:17
LOL  I had a video called groove kitty...he headbanged in the car...it was hilarious but unfortunately, I can't find it to share with you... :-(

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 02/09/2006 10:09:01
Is he dead Loretta?

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 02/09/2006 10:24:19
no...he was banging his head to the music in car

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 02/09/2006 11:05:02
I thought he may have injured himself!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Carolyn on 02/09/2006 17:20:13
quote:
Originally posted by Karen W.

If I recall that makes 3 of us in all. I remember Neil in one cell I'm in one and you are in one too. We need to find Carolyn, she was not fairing well tonight had some troubles at home... Make way we need one more padded cell please!! Lets have a party!! I wish I knew how to import pics, We would have a party,,,cool!

Karen



Karen - you are so funny.  Some days I definately belong in a padded cell.  
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 02/09/2006 19:04:20
I know honey, me too! We all have days like that! How are you today, Better?  I hope they caught the guys that robbed the store. Have you heard one way or the other? I was not going out as I only was able to get two hours sleep, but I am going to try anyway. Robs going for a bike ride then when he comes back we are going to the beach, he said he would go to make sure I get back safely... YAAAAY! I get to go outside,Although it is fogged in today, yesterday was divine by this time!! Maybe it will burn off soon, it's not noon yet!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 04/09/2006 17:49:51
I thought I heard padded cells mentioned. Can I have one with a poster of a view on the wall so I can look out at the animals as they frolic in the summer air and then while still drinking at the river side the martians come down and they all have a little tea party. And they have cucumber sandwiches while moaning about political views....they're all very British, especially when it starts to rain


Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 04/09/2006 20:08:05
I will share mine , of course you can have your own!!LOL Where have you been, wowing all the young ladies???

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 04/09/2006 20:47:47
Well I wouldn't mind sharing yours, the only problem is it would get very crowded, the martians need room for their shoes you see

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 04/09/2006 20:52:14
Geesh, they must have killer feet, I'd like to see those feet!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 04/09/2006 20:57:01
Well they don't actually have feet, it just makes them feel better if they have a load of shoes. But never ask them about it as they get very upset, the only way to cheer them up is to go shoe shopping

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 04/09/2006 22:17:21
Sounds like some women I know! I have shoes, But am pretty basic person. Don,t hardly wear anything but my snaekers or sandals, otherwise I prefer Naked feet!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 04/09/2006 22:21:40
Naked feet! Sounds saucy.

I hope you don't wear socks with your sandals [;)]

I'm a trainer kind of guy, sometimes I get told I look like a skater which can be cool but not when you go into a fancy place it isn't.

Although I do love my cat boots oh and my little booties which you could imagine an eskimo wearing, they're lovely and warm [:)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 04/09/2006 22:47:41
No socks with my sandals! Yuck! I do like socks just sock footed or in my tennis shoes! I really like to be bare footed all the time, but I try to keep my feet from getting rough, as I hate my feet to feel scritchy scratchy, you know what I mean?  Your booties sound nice and warm! I do like warm feet, I hate having cold feet!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 06/09/2006 18:36:05
I like to walk around in bare feet too. However sometimes I like to keep my shoes on at home as long as possible so when I finally take my shoes off the feeling if relief is over whelming and I whimper [;)]

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Flying Monkey Slayer says:

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 06/09/2006 19:21:34
Sounds like me... Joy!!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 06/09/2006 19:28:29
See, you're not alone [:)]

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Flying Monkey Slayer says:

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 06/09/2006 19:34:43
THanks DAn!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 06/09/2006 19:44:21
Free the feet I say [:)]

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Flying Monkey Slayer says:

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 06/09/2006 20:12:32
Yeseree! Nice for sure.. Well I have to write a email so I will scoot and get back to work! Later Dan Have a great Day!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 06/09/2006 20:17:38
And you hun [:X]

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Flying Monkey Slayer says:

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Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 07/09/2006 02:31:54
I like the free the feet thing, are those for me?

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 07/09/2006 04:04:26
Girl, if he says you must bind your feet tightly, I will scream for you!

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 07/09/2006 08:28:41
Sir and Mam A nice reminder to let my feet be free...... AHHHHHHHHHH  OOOHHHYEAHHH!!!!! THat feels like heaven...... Now they need a massage after being bound up all day!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 07/09/2006 17:02:12
quote:
Originally posted by moonfire

Girl, if he says you must bind your feet tightly, I will scream for you!

"Lo" Loretta



Saw a programme about that a while back, horrible, incredible, unbelievable [xx(]

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Flying Monkey Slayer says:

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Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 07/09/2006 17:20:36
Yeah Its a custom in Japan  and I think maybe china too, but I may have that backwards.... supposed to be a sign of wealth and all that good stuff... Very interesting, but so horrible!!! Poor girls!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 08/09/2006 03:13:42
quote:
Originally posted by Mirage

quote:
Originally posted by moonfire

Girl, if he says you must bind your feet tightly, I will scream for you!

"Lo" Loretta



Saw a programme about that a while back, horrible, incredible, unbelievable [xx(]

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Flying Monkey Slayer says:

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It is horrible...I cannot imagine!  [:(!]

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 08/09/2006 07:30:43
Such a mutalating custom to cripple these girls!!! Oh Man....

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 08/09/2006 15:01:41
I wonder if they have much feeling in their feet???

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 08/09/2006 16:15:27
The worst/strange custom I saw on tv was a tribe that snip a womans clitoris off [:0] [xx(]

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Flying Monkey Slayer says:

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Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 08/09/2006 20:50:32
Yikes...come near me with those scissors and you will walk around with a bob...

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 08/09/2006 21:08:16
The women of the tribe had to have this done before they could have kids, otherwise if they didn't have the snip snip and had a baby the villagers would die.....or something like that.

Is quite interesting how they can believe that, but it's like ancient Greece and Rome where they had Gods and Goddesses for everything.

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Flying Monkey Slayer says:

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Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 09/09/2006 03:16:48
Thats sick.. oh my gosh sounds like a male dominant society, no plesure for the women!! Yuck!!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 09/09/2006 04:58:43
No doubt...it would make me have evil thoughts of men though...lol

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 09/09/2006 05:07:10
Not all men are likie that, if every woman did that then blokes would be in trouble.........

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Flying Monkey Slayer says:

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Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: moonfire on 09/09/2006 05:34:35
Nope, not all men...but sure there are some...

"Lo" Loretta
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 09/09/2006 05:37:20
I get the feeling I should have stayed silent, o h dear, ummmmm,  no comment

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Flying Monkey Slayer says:

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Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 09/09/2006 05:55:05
I am greatful for men..... And yellow cake with cream cheese frosting....HEE HEE HEE!!!!  

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 09/09/2006 06:00:21
Don't forget cookies [;)]

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Flying Monkey Slayer says:

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Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 09/09/2006 06:19:36
Nope , I am just sitting eating cake that some baked for me tody for a belated Birthday, I haave not left school as hubby is home sick and I want to stay on here where I don't have to think too hard about decisions...I have mad in my life.. It really is too bad I am not a drinker as I could probably hold my own right now!

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 09/09/2006 06:30:05
It was your birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!

Happy belated Birthday sweetie [:X]

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Flying Monkey Slayer says:

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Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 09/09/2006 06:39:50
Last week, on the 30th I turned the big 46.... whooo another year! Thanks Dan BUT the cake damage is going to kill me...

Karen
Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Mirage on 09/09/2006 06:43:14
I envy you not being a drinker. Drink is the last thing to end things on. The amount of times I have tried to dull pain through the stuff. Now I just use it fora good time, which can be just as dangerous

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Flying Monkey Slayer says:

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Title: Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
Post by: Karen W. on 09/09/2006 06:49:11
Yeah but From past experience ther have been at least one time when it saved my behind so I did not completely loose my mind!! Its such a tempoary fix I don't like it.. I wish you felt better DAn.. I am sorry about things... You can come keep me company tomorrow if you like... Hope tomorrw brings you smiles at your folks house!

Karen