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Title: anger
Post by: ADD HAHAHA on 23/04/2005 07:17:55
i have a problem and get angery easly i was wondering if there was any thing that i could do that would help reduce, prevent, or get rid of the "anger" [:(!][:(!][:(!][:D]

Drew Rody
Title: Re: anger
Post by: memasa on 02/06/2005 21:47:25
You need to be more specific. What do you actually do when you get angry? Or do you just become quiet and hold it inside -- which can also be problematic.
Anyhow, you have to learn to channel the energy into some constructive activity that makes the angriness go away like working out, cleaning up, talking etc.
What I just said is a cliché, but... [:)]

Sincerely Yours,

Your Quackish Mountebank
[;)]
Title: Re: anger
Post by: memasa on 03/06/2005 11:43:23
"If they could figure out a way to channel my anger, they could solve the energy crisis."

WOODY ALLEN


"Never speak when you are angry. If you do you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret."

ROBERT LYND, The Blue Lion


"Men are like steel. When they lose their temper, they lose their worth."

CHUCK NORRIS


"When you see a married couple walking down the street, the one that's a few steps ahead is the one that's mad."

HELEN ROWLAND


"Just because I cut the heads off dolls, they say I must hate babies. But it's not true. I just hate dolls."

ALICE COOPER


Frank Burns (Larry Linville): Why do people take an istant dislike to me?
'Trapper' John McIntyre (Wayne Rogers): It saves time, Frank.

M*A*S*H
Title: Re: anger
Post by: DoctorBeaver on 03/06/2005 14:05:55
What sort of things make you angry? How does the anger manifest itself? How long has this been going on? Is your anger a problem? Does it affect other people? All of these factors need to be taken into account.
A certain amount of anger is not necessarily a bad thing so long as it is used constructively. Anger can sometimes help us to focus our attention - e.g. if we have a frustratingly difficult problem to solve, the "I will NOT be beaten by this!" attitude can be quite useful in bolstering determination to succeed (determination can be regarded as focused aggression).
It's when the anger gets out of control over a sustained period that it needs to be addressed (sporadic bouts of anger over a short period usually have totally different causes to long-term, frequent anger & are quite often nothing to worry about).
However, if it is a long-term problem then Memasa is right: but only as a temporary palliative. Channeling your aggression is addressing the symptom not the cause: & it's the cause that really needs to be looked at. It's like constantly taking aspirin to get rid of persistent headaches. All the aspirin does is mask the symptom: you need to find out what is causing the headaches in the 1st place.
I won't bore the pants off you with all the reasons why some of us get angry & others don't, or why a normally placid person can sometimes really blow their top. A bit of introspection on your part may not go amiss. Answer the 1st 2 questions I asked & try to be as honest with yourself as possible. You may notice a pattern. If so, you will be able to predict when you're likely to become angry & take steps to avoid the situation. Or, at the very least, you will be prepared for an outburst & be able to better control it.
If your anger persists in being a problem, consult your doctor. DON'T let him put you on tranquilisers or mood-suppressants- that's a cop-out & a not very effective 1 at that as it can cause more problems than it cures. Say you want referral to anger management sessions. There you will learn techniques for bringing your anger under control.
Title: Re: anger
Post by: shodashi on 12/09/2005 13:22:23
Anger comes because one is attached with his ego or superego. He feels that the relatives or friends he has are his own as though they are like his property, that only his opinion counts, that what he thinks is only right and that others should fallow suit. If others act in a contrary manner, he loses control and gets angry with them. It is just like we are going on a holiday and the trunk of clothes which we normally take refuses to open or close and we feel very bad about it, get angry and  abuse it as though it is a living thing. Once we put ourselves in other's shoes and react to things in a dispassionate/detached manner, anger is replaced by love, compassion and serenity. But detachment can be got only after realizing one's self and through regular meditation for atleast half an hour daily.

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Title: Re: anger
Post by: neilep on 12/09/2005 19:22:39
...you need to chill !!...when you feel the anger coming.....depart from the thing that is making you angry....walk away to another room, play some music etc....count to ten, or a hundred...or even a thousand...and breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth....you need to manage your anger !

Men are the same as women.... just inside out !!