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He knows that I would never stray but I do have double the temptation.
Karen, I'm so sorry about all that is going on in your life. The guy lied to you and himself. I have heard of so many men marrying good women, knowing deep down that they are gay. I have always been honest with David about my sexuality. He knows that I would never stray but I do have double the temptation. When he is being a pig, I sometimes think that if I divorced him I would choose a woman next time. Karen, If you think the marriage is damaging your sanity, you have to think about you. Everything else should come second. Staying friends is going to be very hard but steel yourself and try. We are all here if you need us. It is a brave decision.
Karen, I would be wary of seeing your X as Gay, he had a ugly experience forced on him when young. Those things leave scars and as most victims the question may become. 'Did I want this', 'could I have avoided it' etc. Those questions can lead both you and him astray. Neither of you planned for this, I think it's just time and human fragility combined. You may yet become friends, no matter his sexual inclination(s). So take it easy, and btw, I think it's okay to hate/feel extremly angry with him, not forever Karen, just for a little while Anger is there anyway, so you better let it out. After all, he did force a great change upon you both. But one step at a time Karen, and get a routine working for you, those small steps will get you happy again.---------(Sorry Karen, missed your last reply (above mine) before I wrote, but here is a 'update' correcting it, well sort of Karen, you will not sell your land. That is from your mother and not to be used like that. Be honest with him and tell him to move out. Let that anger out so that he will understand. Words may not be enough here, so get angry.He needs to move, not you.Contact the police if nothing else helps. If he cares about you he will move.If it's only himself he cares about, then you use what 'help' you can get. And then what I wrote above will be incorrect, as this guy in my eyes then becomes a conniving manipulating piece of sh**