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Personally, I think that gays do have rights. But, I don't think that they should be allowed to adopt a child, to raise. What state would that child be in, when he grows up?Another child may ask.. "Oh so hows your mum and dad?"What will that person say.. "Oh.. I have a male mum and a male dad"Or.. They will have to lie about it!! Awful..... Just my opinion []
I know a lesbian couple who are raising a child 1 of them had by a previous partner. They are doing a fabulous job. The child does well at school, is polite & well-mannered, and often brings friends home (the child is an 8-year-old girl).
As Paul says, it is a slightly naive question.There are lots of different family arrangements for bringing up children, and there always has been. In the past, if a child was orphaned, and the child's bachelor uncle suggested he would be willing to undertake the bringing up of the child, nobody thought to prohibit it.I think it is a different question as to whether institutions should of themselves refuse to give the child over for adoption to a gay couple, and whether the State should prohibit gay couple's from adopting. I think that threatening to shut down a religious institution because it will only pass children for adoption to heterosexual couples is biting off one's nose to spite one's face. The priority should be to maximise the number of adoptions made to any competent and caring persons willing and able to bring up a child who would otherwise be left in an institution. If one organization specialises in adoption amongst one group (e.g. heterosexual couples), while another organisation specialises in a different group (e.g. homosexual couples), then so be it; but shutting either of them down because they are unwilling to take a broader approach to their adoptions seems foolish.Ofcourse, as Kadie and I were discussing elsewhere, any family breakup will always leave the child with some insecurity, and the nature of the family that adopts them may well have an influence upon the child when they grow up. I know the argument that is that there is no evidence that children brought up in homosexual environments are more likely to be homosexual, and while I accept that it should not alter the probability of a predisposition to homosexuality, I cannot imagine that it would not alter the probability of their displaying different learned behaviours. I would also doubt that we really have adequate evidence as to what the actual effects are. But, the point is, aside from the question as to whether an increased in displayed homosexual behaviour is a good or bad thing, one in any case has to strongly bear in mind what the alternatives are? The kind of questions about whether heterosexuals should or should not take precedence over homosexual couples might be a question worth asking if their was a surfeit of suitable prospective adoptive parents and a shortage of children available for adoption. I may be wrong, but I am not at all sure that this is the situation we have.Even if there was a surfeit of prospective adoptive parents, one still has to ask whether sexuality is more important than other factors (that is assuming it is taken into account at all).One also has to ask, to what extent should whether the couple who are adopting a child are in a sexual relationship of any kind be pertinent to the adoption (should the adoption authorities be looking at bedroom behaviour at all)? Should a man and a woman who live together but never actually have sex be prohibited from adopting a child (they are technically not a heterosexual couple in any physical sense)?
I believe a lot of the problems we have today are due to children not having the correct role models in their homes. Single parent families or Gay parent families are not good in my opinion as the child will miss out on either a male or female role model and will fail to learn certain life skills. For instance Men are generally harder than females and tend to ensure that children follow the rules,be in by 8 pm etc. Think about the difference between men and women and think what a kid will miss out on if he is brought up with either the dad or mum missing.
No sorry i believe the best and most balanced environment for a child to grow up in is one with a mother and father.