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« on: 28/01/2008 01:14:30 »
I'm having some girl trouble......theres this girl....whom i like..and every time i get near her i freeze. anyone have some good advice,shes not a real popular girl, she enjoys company. talks to anyone that listens. and shes in 2 of my classes. and with my current track record with girls things aren't looking so hot so i know i need some good advice


 

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« Reply #1 on: 28/01/2008 01:14:58 »
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« Reply #2 on: 28/01/2008 01:22:42 »
Just be yourself and if you like her be her friend Talk to her. I know you know it doesn't matter about weather she is popular or not.. cause what matters and should matter is that she is popular in your heart and that you like her. Sometimes when someone cares for someone else it just makes the cared person shine so much brighter because they know you care for them and it makes them feel good and happy inside, and  they begin to feel better about themselves too. It is a beautiful thing to find that kind of caring in your own heart.. and you never know she may like you too and your friendship may bring out the best in both of you..
 

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« Reply #3 on: 28/01/2008 01:26:55 »
I am not sure I am one to give advice on this, given I have never been very strong on the romantic side, but I would suggest that you don't just 'talk to her', but talk to her about something - by concentrating on something you think you might have a common interest and common cause to discuss, you will get involved in the conversation for its own sake, and forget about the nervousness about the person you are talking to.
 

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« Reply #4 on: 28/01/2008 01:54:16 »
 elizibeth (the girl) and i have many things in common and its kinda hard to talk to her when she is constantly surrounded by her friends, which makes me uncomfortable. other than her bieng surrounded constantly theres no problem
 

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« Reply #5 on: 28/01/2008 02:00:58 »
Do you need any advice on a subject she excels on maybe you could ask her to consider helping you get the hang of a subject you struggle.. That may give you an opportunity to speak with her on a one on one basis about whatever you two like to talk about.. like George says... Do you live close.. ask her if you could walk her home after school or something.
 

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« Reply #6 on: 28/01/2008 02:03:57 »
elizibeth (the girl) and i have many things in common and its kinda hard to talk to her when she is constantly surrounded by her friends, which makes me uncomfortable. other than her bieng surrounded constantly theres no problem

I am maybe grasping at straws here, but is there any way you might be able to arrange to 'happen' to bump into her somewhere outside of school, when maybe she would not be with so many friends?

I suppose she doesn't go around on her own very much, but who knows, you may think of an opportunity.
 

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« Reply #7 on: 28/01/2008 02:06:50 »
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« Reply #8 on: 28/01/2008 02:09:24 »
after school is impossible as soon as i get out of class i have to get to the bus its the first to leave. the best time is P.E. we dont do anything in there anyway
 

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« Reply #9 on: 28/01/2008 02:11:56 »
Does she like sports? Maybe you could run together or something!
 

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« Reply #10 on: 28/01/2008 02:13:18 »
i dont know usually when shes not talking to someone shes either reading or listening to music
 

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« Reply #11 on: 28/01/2008 02:15:27 »
You both like music..Share some good music with her and see if she likes it!
 

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« Reply #12 on: 28/01/2008 02:16:06 »
i was thinking about that
 

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« Reply #13 on: 28/01/2008 02:16:43 »
after school is impossible as soon as i get out of class i have to get to the bus its the first to leave. the best time is P.E. we dont do anything in there anyway

Do you happen to have any friends who live near her - maybe you could arrange to see you friend, and either just pass by her house in the off chance, or mention to her that you will be in the area, and would it be ok with her if you just dropped in to say hello?
 

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« Reply #14 on: 28/01/2008 02:17:16 »
I am hearing you put up barriers between you and her.. when really it seems you have opportunities but are very shy! Are you shy.. or worried she won't like you?
 

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« Reply #15 on: 28/01/2008 02:19:08 »
i dont know usually when shes not talking to someone shes either reading or listening to music

Do you know what kind of books she likes?  Could you possibly recommend something to her that might be of her type of book - and maybe get to discuss it afterwards?  Maybe lend her a book (even if you have to buy it to do so) - and you could always leave a little note in it for her (nothing too blatant, just something friendly and personal).
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« Reply #16 on: 28/01/2008 02:19:39 »
You need to forget about your track record and just start over. Just try not to repeat old mistakes try to learn from the old ones but not dwell on them .. You have grown and learned...
 

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« Reply #17 on: 28/01/2008 02:24:05 »
You need to forget about your track record and just start over. Just try not to repeat old mistakes try to learn from the old ones but not dwell on them .. You have grown and learned...

Put it this way, if you have not made mistakes, you have not learnt.
 

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« Reply #18 on: 28/01/2008 02:25:31 »
Yes That is so True!TRUE TRUE SO TRUE!!!
 

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« Reply #19 on: 28/01/2008 02:25:51 »
after school is impossible as soon as i get out of class i have to get to the bus its the first to leave. the best time is P.E. we dont do anything in there anyway

Do you happen to have any friends who live near her - maybe you could arrange to see you friend, and either just pass by her house in the off chance, or mention to her that you will be in the area, and would it be ok with her if you just dropped in to say hello?

no i do not. as far as i know she lives the farthest from the school

I am hearing you put up barriers between you and her.. when really it seems you have opportunities but are very shy! Are you shy.. or worried she won't like you?
yes and yes

i dont know usually when shes not talking to someone shes either reading or listening to music

Do you know what kind of books she likes?  Could you possibly recommend something to her that might be of her type of book - and maybe get to discuss it afterwards?

 from what i know she is real big on fantasy and manga... which is good. that i can work with she is especially fond of the lord of the rings. which again is something i can work with  
 

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« Reply #20 on: 28/01/2008 02:31:33 »
That is a good start now you have to not be so shy....be friendly and just try not to be over personal at first cause that sometimes makes one nervous and tend to be afraid to speak out. Talk about things you are comfortable with.. and if you click the rest will fall into place and you will be more comfortable.. Nothing is instantaneous and you have to take it easy and listen to her and as well she should also.. don't worry!
 

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« Reply #21 on: 28/01/2008 02:33:48 »
as long is im not surrounded by loads of pepole i should be good
 

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« Reply #22 on: 28/01/2008 03:28:00 »
Don't worry about all the people you are people too!! LOL.. No fear in her friends.. do you know any of her friends you can ease into a conversation with any number of them eh??
 

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« Reply #23 on: 28/01/2008 03:34:37 »
no....but like i said she talks with anyone i just have to time it right also i can try to sit next to her in science which happens to be one of my strongest subjects. so making that move may help if i play my cards right
 

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« Reply #24 on: 28/01/2008 03:44:47 »
There you go young man thats the idea.. You are a nice looking young man with a bright personality.. So smile and let it shine! She'll notice you too!
 

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