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« on: 03/01/2010 11:57:23 »
Hey I have signed up for two dating services and so far I have been bombarded by men who are more like between 20 to thirty years old, and 74 to 85 years old.. seriously... I am 49...Is It out of line for me to want to date someone closer to ten years my younger or no more then ten years my elder?

I am not saying they are not nice or interesting men.. but I feel uncomfortable dating someone that could be my child, and I won't do it! The same thing for someone who could be my father... am I the only women out there that feels that way or am I just way behind in the dating game...?

How do other women feel about this.. or you men?


 

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« Reply #1 on: 03/01/2010 13:43:39 »
I think it's very natural to want relationships with a "peer", and I consider ±7 years as peers, so for you that's age 42 thru 56.  Of course, being a scientist, I'd like to see statistics, standard deviations etc.
Thanks for your response that sounds more reasonable to me too..LOL...
 

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« Reply #2 on: 03/01/2010 14:00:04 »
Karen check out of you can alter your settings so only men of a certain age category can contact you, many dating sites do this. Also make sure in your profile you state what you are looking for in men in terms of age.
I'm 34 and my 'dating' range is 30-50 for a chap. 50 really is the top limit, I don't want to date someone old enough to be my Dad!! :-)
 

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« Reply #3 on: 03/01/2010 15:00:14 »
I hate it too when men old enuff to wipe my arse want to date me !
 

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« Reply #4 on: 03/01/2010 15:37:43 »
LOL...LOL...LOL....You never cease making me smile....LOL..Thanks Neily!
 

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« Reply #5 on: 03/01/2010 15:41:30 »
Karen check out of you can alter your settings so only men of a certain age category can contact you, many dating sites do this. Also make sure in your profile you state what you are looking for in men in terms of age.
I'm 34 and my 'dating' range is 30-50 for a chap. 50 really is the top limit, I don't want to date someone old enough to be my Dad!! :-)

I know on one site I did that but its the self driven ones there that are insistent not the companies matches..LOL...
But you make good points I will change my infoe and add a bit there to give a more defined group..I have deleted almost everyone one who has been picked, I guess I am too pickky! LOL..and scared...
 

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« Reply #6 on: 03/01/2010 20:30:44 »

I'm 34 and my 'dating' range is 30-50 for a chap. 50 really is the top limit, I don't want to date someone old enough to be my Dad!! :-)

Bugger! So I suppose afternoon tea is out of the question then? Probably just as well though. I don't think Mrs G would really approve.
 

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« Reply #7 on: 03/01/2010 20:34:38 »
..and scared...

Scared is good. I would think you can't be too careful.
 

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« Reply #8 on: 03/01/2010 20:37:17 »

I'm 34 and my 'dating' range is 30-50 for a chap. 50 really is the top limit, I don't want to date someone old enough to be my Dad!! :-)

Bugger! So I suppose afternoon tea is out of the question then? Probably just as well though. I don't think Mrs G would really approve.

Afternoon tea is fine..... I always do my bit for old folk... :D
 

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« Reply #9 on: 03/01/2010 20:48:56 »

I'm 34 and my 'dating' range is 30-50 for a chap. 50 really is the top limit, I don't want to date someone old enough to be my Dad!! :-)

Bugger! So I suppose afternoon tea is out of the question then? Probably just as well though. I don't think Mrs G would really approve.

As ewe said  "bugger"...I'm interested now !
 

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« Reply #10 on: 03/01/2010 20:50:39 »
Karen check out of you can alter your settings so only men of a certain age category can contact you, many dating sites do this. Also make sure in your profile you state what you are looking for in men in terms of age.
I'm 34 and my 'dating' range is 30-50 for a chap. 50 really is the top limit, I don't want to date someone old enough to be my Dad!! :-)

I know on one site I did that but its the self driven ones there that are insistent not the companies matches..LOL...
But you make good points I will change my infoe and add a bit there to give a more defined group..I have deleted almost everyone one who has been picked, I guess I am too pickky! LOL..and scared...

Please do keep us all informed....and let all prospective beaus know that their credentials are under close scrutiny by some naked scientists !
 

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« Reply #11 on: 04/01/2010 00:26:54 »
LOL...LOL....Your too funny! Hee hee hee...
 

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« Reply #12 on: 04/01/2010 00:36:52 »
Please do keep us all informed....and let all prospective beaus know that their credentials are under close scrutiny by some naked scientists !

Yeah! And they better behave, or they might get a visit from The Tupernator!
 

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« Reply #13 on: 04/01/2010 09:19:07 »
Karen check out of you can alter your settings so only men of a certain age category can contact you, many dating sites do this. Also make sure in your profile you state what you are looking for in men in terms of age.
I'm 34 and my 'dating' range is 30-50 for a chap. 50 really is the top limit, I don't want to date someone old enough to be my Dad!! :-)

I know on one site I did that but its the self driven ones there that are insistent not the companies matches..LOL...
But you make good points I will change my infoe and add a bit there to give a more defined group..I have deleted almost everyone one who has been picked, I guess I am too pickky! LOL..and scared...

Nah you get loads of wallies on dating sites... not wanting to date them is not being picky!!! :D
I am not sure if I will be told off for posting a link up ( its not spam mods its not spam mods) but if you haven't tried it try plentyoffish.com they have settings that mean you can really control who contacts you and who can view your profile. It is also free!
 

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« Reply #14 on: 04/01/2010 23:57:46 »
Well, to tell you truth I'm not all that sure about "Wallies". I do know about Wellies though, but I think that's something very different.

As for afternoon tea, I suspect it's a lot less popular in the UK than it once was. People are probably too busy nowadays to bother with it. It was a very civilized institution while it lasted.

The general idea was to have afternoon tea in the middle of the afternoon, probably around 3:30. You could load up on small sandwiches, scones, crumpets and the like so that you didn't have to eat dinner too early.

Strangely, the last time I actually had afternoon tea was in California not all that long ago. The Ritz Carlton in Laguna Niguel used to do it in a beautiful room with a fabulous view over the Pacific. I took my wife and daughters there. Cost me an arm and a leg, but they loved it!
 

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« Reply #15 on: 05/01/2010 00:52:41 »
Heh yeah if someone offered me an afternoon tea I'd be shocked if they were serious or laugh if they weren't ;D I don't know anybody that does have them. Maybe that's a reflection of my social standing (I'm from a working class background) but I think that's the case for most people, maybe even those upper-middle class types.
 

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« Reply #16 on: 05/01/2010 01:08:05 »
Yes. It was probably only something that the wealthy could regularly indulge in, but I think it was recognized as a "treat", even by those of limited means. There were Tea Rooms all over Britain at one time.

An interesting aspect of this might be that it was an opportunity for human interaction. Humans love to interact with other humans. Now there is little need for Tea Rooms, because we can interact over the Internet.
 

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« Reply #17 on: 05/01/2010 01:14:10 »
Go Internet!

Why I like it: I can reach so many different people, with different backgrounds, with different attitudes, opinions & temperaments with just a little technical understanding.

Why I don't like it: it'll never compare to the physical presence of having someone in a room with you :)

Anyway, this is going a bit off topic now!
 

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« Reply #18 on: 05/01/2010 03:12:39 »
Yep
..and scared...

Scared is good. I would think you can't be too careful.
careful.. thanks.
 

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« Reply #19 on: 05/01/2010 10:43:49 »
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Humans love to interact with other humans.

I bet that is what you say to Mrs Geezer...  ;D
 

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« Reply #20 on: 05/01/2010 11:29:23 »
There were 67 replys in my box in a day and a half!
 

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« Reply #21 on: 05/01/2010 18:36:58 »
What's a geezer-hood? Where can I get one? Would it help to keep the snow off me?
 

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« Reply #22 on: 05/01/2010 21:48:02 »
A Wally is a man who thinks he is a sex machine. He has a hairy chest or chest wig and quite often has a medallion. He is going bald but has long hair or even a pony tail. He is probably having a mid-life-crisis and may have bought a man-o-porsche.
 

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« Reply #23 on: 05/01/2010 21:52:17 »
Afternoon tea is rather old fasioned now but you can still get a good one at the many brilliant tea shops around the country. There are some excellent ones in the south west of England where cream teas can also be purchased. My favorite in the whole of England is in a little farm house close to Belvoir Castle (pronounced Beaver for all fans of our dear departed friend.)
 

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« Reply #24 on: 05/01/2010 21:53:34 »
I think it's very natural to want relationships with a "peer", and I consider ±7 years as peers, so for you that's age 42 thru 56.  Of course, being a scientist, I'd like to see statistics, standard deviations etc.
Standard deviations are what you tend to get from men on dating sites. Beware of knicker stealing Mayors.
 

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