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Re: .. ur most disappointing moment in life
« Reply #25 on: 23/08/2006 07:11:08 »
Realizing that after 25 years of marraige, I am not in love with my husband like I should be! I thought I was, but 19 years old is so young! We are Friends. Good friends most of the time! That is probably the biggest disaapointment in my life. Love is supposed to be forever! I thought.

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« Reply #26 on: 23/08/2006 07:18:14 »
Karen, I am so sorry for your disappointment...big hugs to you...and WE ALL LOVE YOU ...YES WE DO !!..What we do without you Mam ?...we would be lost !!

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« Reply #27 on: 23/08/2006 07:18:53 »
See that is what concerns me....yikes!

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« Reply #28 on: 23/08/2006 09:46:45 »
Neil Thanks for you sweet words I would be lost without you all! Thanks for the hugs. I never thought I would ever tell anyone how I felt about my situation but you guys are like a dog gone bunch of great Phychologists!!You are the best!!! Sorry to unload, thats been brewing for over ten years how about that!! Not what you expected tonight eh? Me Neither, It flopped right out there!


Loretta what do you mean???  About you and Denny? It concerns me a great deal that you make sure its right, cause it hurts so bad if you invest your whole life in someone and find out that maybe he or she is not what you thought or not as commited to you as you had once thought!! But we don't have a crystal ball, and we don't always listen to that still small voice inside telling us what is right and what is wrong. I just wish that I had had more of my grandmas intuition and insight so I could have made better choices back then. She told me I could and that I had to really listen to my soul, but I was young and didn't understand, now I do and I am in such a pickle about my own morals and feelings and heart. To not love and stay, or love wholly and leave and be happy for the rest of my life. That means starting over, new places friends , perhaps angry families and hurt feelings , Its so hard to know what is right am I being selfish wanting happiness is it just too much. My decisions will effect my whole family and another, so I am stuck in this pickle as I know not how to move on! Am I worth hurting so many others am I a good enough reason to change so many lives and tangle up so many others hearts! I just don't know. Is it right to sacrafice so many others for my own happiness. I just don't know!! I may never know for sure, but when I do decide I have to do it without regrets and without reservation as it will have to be a final decision!! It is so very hard!!!


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Re: .. ur most disappointing moment in life
« Reply #29 on: 23/08/2006 10:20:27 »
Whoa!  Girl I understand, but happiness is most important to you not to others.  I am having to tell family members and friends a bit more so they can understand where my thoughts are...I would never tell you to leave or stay...but this I will tell you friend, time will heal all pain for those who may not understand or understand.  But you are the one who counts here....your support team...is it your mom, father, or a few closest friends...girl, get with them.  we are always here for you...also, you know how to reach me if you need me...and I will shoot you an email in a bit...

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« Reply #30 on: 23/08/2006 10:58:18 »
I have no support system parent passed No living aunts uncles or sibs that are viable straight souls.  I am it! Heaven forbid I talk to my mother in law as she would just as soon cut off my head and throw it to the birds if I told her I was leaving or even thinking about it. No one but hubby and self know how I feel about our marraige,maybe one other, he just thinks things will be dandy and I will continue to accept my lot in life!! The friends I do have are mutual and would never understand the way I feel. I am torn. I guess thats why I love this forum!! Not to mention you are all great!! All of you!  No worries I have been contemplating the situation for a long long time and still no conclusions. Must need more time to fix other things first! Thanks Loretta!

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Re: .. ur most disappointing moment in life
« Reply #31 on: 23/08/2006 14:37:21 »
I will send you some info to you a bit later this evening when I am at my other job...or rather when I have time with a clear head as my first job keeps bugging me and I may as well go in...

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« Reply #32 on: 23/08/2006 16:55:22 »
Aww Karen. I'm so sorry to hear this.

I definitely agree with Loretta, at this point it has to be about you.

But that is all I'm gonna say, I'm new and feel that it's not my place to comment or offer any advice.

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« Reply #33 on: 23/08/2006 17:02:51 »
No worries, but it has been the most dissappointing aspect of my life ! Thanks though! No problem! Ive got it , always do.. Just need more pondering I think!!

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« Reply #34 on: 23/08/2006 17:17:52 »
Well you have a lot of friends on here who think highly of you, and from what I have seen I agree.


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Re: .. ur most disappointing moment in life
« Reply #35 on: 22/08/2006 21:16:43 »
quote:
Originally posted by Mirage

Never kissing my first proper girlfriend

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps



Ha Ha !!...Oh chum...that does actually remind me of the first time I...ahem...' sorted out ' my first girlfriend ...........wrong hole !!!! ..There I was thinking that I must be built like Ron Jeremy !!!...all the while I was ' exiting ' instead of ' entrancing ':D

That was a faux pas on a certain personal magnitude !!  :D

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« Reply #36 on: 22/08/2006 21:25:18 »


Oh dear.....

Apparently she was a pretty good kisser, according to my cousin

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« Reply #37 on: 23/08/2006 00:27:52 »
...shm you lost your chance to your cousin i guess. yes, not still bad it was still a family business

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Re: .. ur most disappointing moment in life
« Reply #38 on: 23/08/2006 05:28:39 »
I would rather keep it out of the family circle...geez...maybe your cousin couldn't kiss?

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« Reply #39 on: 23/08/2006 07:11:08 »
Realizing that after 25 years of marraige, I am not in love with my husband like I should be! I thought I was, but 19 years old is so young! We are Friends. Good friends most of the time! That is probably the biggest disaapointment in my life. Love is supposed to be forever! I thought.

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« Reply #40 on: 23/08/2006 07:18:14 »
Karen, I am so sorry for your disappointment...big hugs to you...and WE ALL LOVE YOU ...YES WE DO !!..What we do without you Mam ?...we would be lost !!

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« Reply #41 on: 23/08/2006 07:18:53 »
See that is what concerns me....yikes!

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« Reply #42 on: 23/08/2006 09:46:45 »
Neil Thanks for you sweet words I would be lost without you all! Thanks for the hugs. I never thought I would ever tell anyone how I felt about my situation but you guys are like a dog gone bunch of great Phychologists!!You are the best!!! Sorry to unload, thats been brewing for over ten years how about that!! Not what you expected tonight eh? Me Neither, It flopped right out there!


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« Reply #43 on: 23/08/2006 10:20:27 »
Whoa!  Girl I understand, but happiness is most important to you not to others.  I am having to tell family members and friends a bit more so they can understand where my thoughts are...I would never tell you to leave or stay...but this I will tell you friend, time will heal all pain for those who may not understand or understand.  But you are the one who counts here....your support team...is it your mom, father, or a few closest friends...girl, get with them.  we are always here for you...also, you know how to reach me if you need me...and I will shoot you an email in a bit...

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« Reply #44 on: 23/08/2006 10:58:18 »
I have no support system parent passed No living aunts uncles or sibs that are viable straight souls.  I am it! Heaven forbid I talk to my mother in law as she would just as soon cut off my head and throw it to the birds if I told her I was leaving or even thinking about it. No one but hubby and self know how I feel about our marraige,maybe one other, he just thinks things will be dandy and I will continue to accept my lot in life!! The friends I do have are mutual and would never understand the way I feel. I am torn. I guess thats why I love this forum!! Not to mention you are all great!! All of you!  No worries I have been contemplating the situation for a long long time and still no conclusions. Must need more time to fix other things first! Thanks Loretta!

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« Reply #45 on: 23/08/2006 14:37:21 »
I will send you some info to you a bit later this evening when I am at my other job...or rather when I have time with a clear head as my first job keeps bugging me and I may as well go in...

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« Reply #46 on: 23/08/2006 16:55:22 »
Aww Karen. I'm so sorry to hear this.

I definitely agree with Loretta, at this point it has to be about you.

But that is all I'm gonna say, I'm new and feel that it's not my place to comment or offer any advice.

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« Reply #47 on: 23/08/2006 17:02:51 »
No worries, but it has been the most dissappointing aspect of my life ! Thanks though! No problem! Ive got it , always do.. Just need more pondering I think!!

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« Reply #48 on: 23/08/2006 17:17:52 »
Well you have a lot of friends on here who think highly of you, and from what I have seen I agree.


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« Reply #49 on: 23/08/2006 19:59:10 »
Hi Karen - just wanted to let you know I love you.  I understand what you're going through.  I've been there.  It was one of the most painful times in my life.  I have been and will continue to pray for you. Love you Lots!!!

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