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Am I the only one still young here? Singing live songs for hour.

So much sweet love hidden in my heart, its painful some times.

I miss my young lovers, all of them.

Time will not return, so sad.



 

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Re: Why am I still missing my girl friends after 40 years?
« Reply #1 on: 08/08/2014 02:20:54 »
Don't worry, good steel never rust :)
 

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Re: Why am I still missing my girl friends after 40 years?
« Reply #2 on: 08/08/2014 03:29:47 »
Am I the only one still young here? Singing live songs for hour.

So much sweet love hidden in my heart, its painful some times.

I miss my young lovers, all of them.

Time will not return, so sad.
            Love hath such sweet sorrow.
            Rhyme nor reason hath it not.
            When rational thought gives way,
            to foolish desire, wild and HOT.

............................Ethos
« Last Edit: 08/08/2014 03:31:31 by Ethos_ »
 

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Re: Why am I still missing my girl friends after 40 years?
« Reply #3 on: 08/08/2014 07:23:07 »
Why? Because the first time is magic, and everything thereafter is an attempt to recreate the magic. Ask any pilot: he remembers his first solo and his latest mission, but the lifetime in between is just entries in a log book (apart, maybe, from a few "interesting experiences").
 

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Re: Why am I still missing my girl friends after 40 years?
« Reply #4 on: 08/08/2014 15:44:30 »
Its about time to help poortrons to get laid. Science without justice is no good science.
 

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Re: Why am I still missing my girl friends after 40 years?
« Reply #5 on: 08/08/2014 16:08:57 »
Sad for you perhaps, but in some ways encouraging. Studies show that people's experience of happiness and pain, and their memory of that experience are irrational and contradictory. We tend to remember things that ended badly as being more unpleasant than it was, and since most relationships do not tend to end well, we often remember the entire experience as mostly negative. It actually sounds like you have a more accurate and balanced recollection of your past relationships, hence miss the positive aspects more than others might.

I've been reading Daniel Gilbert's Stumbling on Happiness, and he talks a lot about the contradiction between the experience of happiness vs the memory of that experience.
« Last Edit: 08/08/2014 16:12:19 by cheryl j »
 

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Re: Why am I still missing my girl friends after 40 years?
« Reply #6 on: 10/08/2014 01:56:28 »
The main reason WHY you miss them deals with brain chemistry...  More specifically you attribute your past lovers to elevated sex hormone levels subconsciously. You miss them like I miss weed but love/sex hormones especially Oxytocin are far more addictive then cannabinoids though.

An addiction to another human being is what you feel, put quite bluntly.

That's the scientific truth, but saying it like that sounds cold and heartless.  we all felt the hurt of love at some point, it's what makes us human, nay a living being.  Most all mammals feel love in their own way so your not alone.
 

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Re: Why am I still missing my girl friends after 40 years?
« Reply #7 on: 13/08/2014 23:35:24 »
Sad for you perhaps, but in some ways encouraging. Studies show that people's experience of happiness and pain, and their memory of that experience are irrational and contradictory. We tend to remember things that ended badly as being more unpleasant than it was, and since most relationships do not tend to end well, we often remember the entire experience as mostly negative. It actually sounds like you have a more accurate and balanced recollection of your past relationships, hence miss the positive aspects more than others might.

I've been reading Daniel Gilbert's Stumbling on Happiness, and he talks a lot about the contradiction between the experience of happiness vs the memory of that experience.

Made me think of two opposites Cheryl. Remembering ones life, what weight over? The good? As in all those things that worked out, in some way maybe also proving ones worth? Or the things that went wrong, and that one wish one could correct, one way or another.

Isn't it also about personality types?
 

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Re: Why am I still missing my girl friends after 40 years?
« Reply #8 on: 15/11/2014 11:14:04 »
Am I the only one still young here? Singing live songs for hour.

So much sweet love hidden in my heart, its painful some times.

I miss my young lovers, all of them.

Time will not return, so sad.
            Love hath such sweet sorrow.
            Rhyme nor reason hath it not.
            When rational thought gives way,
            to foolish desire, wild and HOT.

............................Ethos

That is beautiful Ethos!
 

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Re: Why am I still missing my girl friends after 40 years?
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