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Offline Karen W.

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 I know for me this is a tough one which extends further then just low self esteem into self hate. Over the years I blamed myself for things that happened to me as a child. I think even now that I have overcome some of those things, that were embedded in my head, that I still have a long way to go before I am able to make the adjustments to my own self image in order to accept certain things as true about myself. I especially have  hard time with compliments about my character.. Is this because I still don't like myself, because for the most part I do like myself but I don't understand what makes our brain do this!

How about you? How do you Handle compliments? Do they make you feel uneasy?


 

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i get complimented on my eyes all the time. it makes me blush. it's not like i did anything to make them like they are. i like to earn my compliments
 

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I am very uncomfortable with them.. Even tonight all the nice things on th card I told you about.. touched me so much. It is just hard to acknowledge that people could feel that way about me.. It is very weird... I don't mind the ones like wow great doll furniture you made .. Those I can handle its the personal ones that take breath away and really make me almost shy away!
 

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I don't have a problem accepting compliments. Well, it happens so often I've become accustomed to it  [^]
 

Offline Karen W.

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 You deserve them..LOL
 

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They look good on you anyways! HEE HEE HEE!
 

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& they don't make my bum look big!  :D
 

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ha ha
 

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No they don't! Turn around here doc let  me check em out for you... hmmmmmmm look pretty nice Lookin Good, doc looking good! LOL
 

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No they don't! Turn around here doc let  me check em out for you... hmmmmmmm look pretty nice Lookin good doc looking good! LOL

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HEE HEE HEE!!!
 

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What lots of you people said. LoL.
 

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NO FAIR..LOL I have done a couple times!
 

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Sorry, but you all answered it for me. LoL.
 

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LOL>> well we shouldn't have done that must be a boring thread!
 

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I am very uncomfortable with them.. Even tonight all the nice things on th card I told you about.. touched me so much. It is just hard to acknowledge that people could feel that way about me.. It is very weird... I don't mind the ones like wow great doll furniture you made .. Those I can handle its the personal ones that take breath away and really make me almost shy away!

Eh? What "card"?

I'm modest, i find it hard to accept compliments.

Paradox.
 

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All the wonderful parents of my kids at school sent me a card with truely wonderful lovely things in it.. things they said about my absense in the school and just a really nice bunch of things made me cry... to think I might not get to go back ...I already miss them horribly and it has been over a week.

Those compliments they sent were beautiful and humbled me.. I am embarrassed and don't understand why.. that's all... Also very touched by their card and gifts.. They are wonderful.. I miss everyone of them..
 

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