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« Reply #25 on: 05/07/2007 21:43:28 »
I think I need your help Beaver actually,
Your the resident shrink, can you help shirk me, coz I cant stop myself posting about Lily,and I have decided that I really need to move on.
 
But today I've been thinking about, that photo I saw of her, in a funky ass dress, big pink bunny ears on her head, smoking and bottle in hand, I saw it and thought ´my God, I love this woman´.

Come on thats not normal surely!

Recomendations wanted.


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« Reply #26 on: 06/07/2007 02:50:41 »
is he not addicted to her? i think he is
 

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« Reply #27 on: 06/07/2007 13:11:19 »
is he not addicted to her? i think he is

I think the term you might be looking for is 'limerence', a term coined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov (and don't worry if you have not heard the term before, I only saw it for the first time today).
 

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« Reply #28 on: 06/07/2007 17:38:54 »
is he not addicted to her? i think he is

I think the term you might be looking for is 'limerence', a term coined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov (and don't worry if you have not heard the term before, I only saw it for the first time today).

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Limerence, as posited by psychologist Dorothy Tennov, is an involuntary cognitive and emotional state in which a person feels an intense romantic desire for another person (the limerent object). Limerence can often be what is meant when one expresses "having a crush" on (or infatuation with) someone else although limerence, unlike a crush, can last months, years or even a lifetime.
It is characterized by intrusive thinking and pronounced sensitivity to external events that reflect the disposition of the limerent object towards the individual. It can be experienced as intense joy or as extreme despair, depending on whether the feelings are reciprocated.

Well here I take issue because returned or not, I will alway be jolly... ;D

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While the use of the word has not gained widespread acceptance, nor can it be found in most current dictionaries, limerence theory is nevertheless used in psychological studies dealing with romantic love and is frequently discussed by those interested in Tennov's work. Tennov describes limerence as beginning with a barely perceptible feeling of increased interest in the limerent object, that, if nurtured by appropriate conditions, can grow to enormous intensity, although in most cases it subsides to a low level after some time. At this stage, states Tennov, limerence is either transformed through reciprocation or it is transferred to another person who then becomes the new limerent object.

I also disagree here, I do not think I´m gonna start after someone else next week. Sorry lily you may have to put up with these posts for years...lol but hardly as I already said I intend to move on.

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Under the best of conditions the waning of limerence through mutuality is accompanied by the growth of an emotional response more suitably described as love.

Well possibly, though I dont really feel the term limerence applies to me.

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Limerence is probably more likely to be common amongst post-adolescents and young adults due to the levels of uncertainty and lack of self esteem that are found within limerence.

Whatever, I don't feel thats valid for me, you may. Although I would agree that I am slightly uncertain about certain things, but then life, in many respects, is uncertain in general anyway.

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This is because these are stages where most people have heightened interest in another person or people due to the seeking out of a relationship. Most people establish relationships, or begin 'dating' at this phase in life.

Limerence can be stopped when a person establishes a genuine love with a limerant object or another person. Differences between limerence occurring in males and females have not yet been established.

I do not agree that I am suffering (if thats what you want to call it) from that! I like the lady, I do hold feelings of care and concern for her, but nothing more really, I asked her to go on a date for the very purpose of finding out if I could feel more.
So I love her, but I'm not in love with her.
I would like to be in love with her, but how can anyone be in love with someone they don't know? Hence I think I could totally fall for her, but not until I meet her could I ever say for sure or even have a hope of knowing.

So its a crush. I am not addicted. The post to Beaver was more of a joke- not what I thought at seeing her pic but the please help stuff.


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« Reply #29 on: 06/07/2007 19:40:42 »
So moving on, how about we just discuss dates?
 

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« Reply #30 on: 07/07/2007 00:16:18 »
I bought a box of dates a couple of weeks ago. They were nice.
 

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« Reply #31 on: 07/07/2007 15:37:14 »
I bought a box of dates a couple of weeks ago. They were nice.

Cool, I went pruning some date trees/plants earlier today, t´woz jolly good fun, what!

P.S love the kitty kdlynn. :)
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« Reply #32 on: 07/07/2007 15:45:34 »
why thank you
 

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« Reply #33 on: 07/07/2007 15:57:57 »
You is like well welcome, rude girl.
 

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« Reply #34 on: 07/07/2007 16:08:19 »
i didn't mean to be rude... when was i rude? i'm sorry
 

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« Reply #35 on: 07/07/2007 16:10:22 »
and so you should be!!!!
 

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« Reply #36 on: 07/07/2007 16:12:10 »
i still don't know what i did?
 

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« Reply #37 on: 07/07/2007 16:16:13 »
Well that just makes it even worst, now your, like a propper rude girl!!!
 

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« Reply #38 on: 07/07/2007 16:21:58 »
um... i don't want to be rude... but since i don't remember being rude, i'm sorry and i hope you have a wonderful day
 

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« Reply #39 on: 07/07/2007 16:40:18 »
Well thats o.k kdlynn, I as a good Christian will forgive you, have a good day too.

You Americans is like well wicked. Nuff respect...... what!   
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« Reply #40 on: 07/07/2007 16:56:59 »
You is like well welcome, rude girl.



Ali G (Sasha Baron-Cohen - cousin of world-renown psychologist Simon Baron-Cohen) addressing the Harvard class of 2004
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« Reply #41 on: 07/07/2007 17:04:20 »



Ali G (Sasha Baron-Cohen - cousin of world-renown psychologist Simon Baron-Cohen) addressing the Harvard class of 2004

I is thinking that kdlynn and Mr G would make a well good couple!
 

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« Reply #42 on: 07/07/2007 17:06:37 »
Nuff respek for dat idea from da West Staines Massiv!
 

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« Reply #43 on: 07/07/2007 17:09:29 »
init, kdlynn does you and your kitty like getting cained?
 

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« Reply #44 on: 07/07/2007 17:16:32 »
init, kdlynn does you and your kitty like getting cained?

 [:0] Dat is well outa order man!
 

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« Reply #45 on: 07/07/2007 17:46:30 »
ok. i already told you jolly that i don't know what i did to offend you and that i'm sorry for doing so. why are you being mean to me?
 

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« Reply #46 on: 07/07/2007 17:51:48 »
He's not being mean. Rude girl doesn't mean rude as such. It's a street slang thing. He was actually doing an Ali G (in the pic I posted).
 

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« Reply #47 on: 07/07/2007 17:53:26 »
oh. so what does it mean?
 

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« Reply #48 on: 07/07/2007 18:13:13 »
I do believe beaver is right and Jolly was being funny!
 

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« Reply #49 on: 07/07/2007 18:14:43 »
but what does it mean?
 

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