the way gravity is commonly represented is as a fundamental force that bends spacetime, and the bend in spacetime is what causes all matter to attract towards each other. this is a good abstraction to visualize how gravity works in the universe, but only in terms of time and space.

theory:
is it physically sound to represent gravity as a force that pushes some unknown limitless particle or wave out of all matter, and that split propels the matter towards the source of gravity? for example, a star and all its matter emits gravity outwards in every direction, which naturally loses concentration in quantity over distance. every time gravity interacts with matter, like a nearby planet, it knocks out some elementary particle with the same force as gravity and in the direction it was first hit. then, newtons first law works out and all the matter in the planet, now separated from this hypothetical particle, moves with the same force as gravity but in the opposite direction of the gravity, which would bring it towards the sun. the hypothetical particle that's ejected could be what we detect as gravitational waves.

metaphysically it seems appropriate, no matter now physically inappropriate it seems. gravity itself has a constant force, and each incoming gravity particle or wave would impart the same amount of force on matter. what makes gravity 'stronger' or 'weaker' at certain distances is the idea that more of these particles are hitting the matter at any given span of time, each collision producing its own outgoing gravitational wave. the real question is determining how gravity itself navigates space and time, and whether it shoots out in random directions or all directions at once.

this is mostly just an abstract concept, but im interested to hear how the actual math of physics could contradict this or if any other theories for gravity may be similar.