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quote:Originally posted by neilep...as I mentioned...in all sincerity...my concern are not what my children might be writing, though that is of course something which should not be overlooked, but my main concern is who they are talking to and fundamentally, what these people are saying to my children ....
quote:Originally posted by another_someonequote:Originally posted by neilep...as I mentioned...in all sincerity...my concern are not what my children might be writing, though that is of course something which should not be overlooked, but my main concern is who they are talking to and fundamentally, what these people are saying to my children ....I am not in your position, so I really can't say what is right and wrong; but if your concern is who they are talking to, then could you not ask your kids to let you see a sample of their conversations that they feel happy with you seeing (enough to satisfy you amount the nature of who they are talking to, without covertly compromising their privacy)?George
quote:without covertly compromising their privacy
quote:Originally posted by LaithI agree with most of what was said here, but i cant stop thinking that i myself (and probably everyone else here) used to say or write things that i wouldnt want my parents or even my friends sometimes to see, things that my dad might not like, or things that could be embarrassing, but we still turned out to be okay, i wouldnt mind my kids to grow up like me even though i wasnt a perfect kidLaith
quote:I appreciate your suggestion. I will ask them to let me see a token page or two. How ever, there are times when I have walked in the room and my son has acted with alacrity to hide the page and then has displayed some guilt....
quote:But this is a 12 year old boy and a 10 year old girl and they are my children and I am entrusted with their care.Your point quote:--------------------------------------------------------------------------------without covertly compromising their privacy--------------------------------------------------------------------------------is a whole new topic.I would say a ten & twelve year do not have the luxury of complete privacy whilst they are my children, in my home and under my care ! Though they do benefit from privacy but it's scope is limited.
quote:MSN chat log is OK but easy to disable - and it won't record what's going on elsewhere. Download & install a keylogger (or, better still, a program that intercepts & logs all text that's sent to the monitor from the local keyboard or from the net). They won't even know it's running and you can spy on everything that goes on. <sneaky grin>
quote:Originally posted by CarolynReasonable parents realize that their children are going to say and do things they shouldn't. We/I don't get bent out of shape when I hear them say something bad, or express an opinion I don't agree with, or even plan to do something I don't approve of. We expect our children to make mistakes and hope they learn from them. Learning and recovering from mistakes help make us productive adults. Unfortunately, there are some mistakes our children can make that they can never recover from. These mistakes can cost them their innocence and sometimes, their very lives. The goal is to keep them safe and protected as best we can, using whatever tools we deem necessary.