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Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Titanscape on 20/03/2009 22:00:54
So then, with regards to sex, and the sensual part of it, without mention of meaningfulness... what matters?

Maximum length, or width? It changes after child rearing?

Or it is a partner to partner size match, her 3-4 inches needs, his 5-6 inches, or her 4-5 inches needs 6-7 inches...?
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Chemistry4me on 20/03/2009 23:37:18
Everything!
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Don_1 on 21/03/2009 11:56:33
Min, the Egyptian God of fertility seems to have the right answer

(https://www.thenakedscientists.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thekeep.org%2F%7Ekunoichi%2Fkunoichi%2Fthemestream%2Fmin2.gif&hash=b79701dab74992ce5470c6f8b3d0bcca)
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Chemistry4me on 21/03/2009 12:01:27
At first I was confused.


Then I noticed it.
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Chemistry4me on 21/03/2009 12:05:46
That's one vote for size and width Titanscape. [:)]
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Chemistry4me on 21/03/2009 13:03:55
I'm still confused.
Why did they call him Min?
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Karen W. on 22/03/2009 08:09:53
I thought maybe he was a MINute man! LOL Or MINiture but that does not seem to be the case... Perhaps MINimum length!
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Karen W. on 22/03/2009 08:11:30





So then, with regards to sex, and the sensual part of it, without mention of meaningfulness... what matters?

Maximum length, or width? It changes after child rearing?

Or it is a partner to partner size match, her 3-4 inches needs, his 5-6 inches, or her 4-5 inches needs 6-7 inches...?


I have no help to offer as My marriage has been monogamous on my part...and he is smallish so there are no comparisons to offer you!
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Titanscape on 22/03/2009 10:04:27
I am not active, so I only reckon based on reading and hearing. Some ideas make sense to me.
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Karen W. on 22/03/2009 11:03:11
I can tell you that after a woman has a baby or three that there is a certain amount of elasticity that is lost making things way looser an roomy in through the vaginal opening.... and if nothing  more it makes sensation less stimulating.. for the woman....I understand that doctors can take you back in a stitch or two to help that..

I tore with one of my children and had an episiodomy also...but I healed well first child...
It was third child that the cave door became roomy so to speak...lol... b

So a bigger penis could possibly be helpful in that way...but I don't know for sure.....
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: JnA on 22/03/2009 13:47:05
Karen - three words for you "pelvic floor exercises".

WRT to OP I have heard gems like "it's not the size of the wave but the motion of the ocean"  indicating style over size is ideal..

but with all the different types of waves.. I'm thinking girth plays a big part for a female.
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Variola on 22/03/2009 13:56:15
Karen - three words for you "pelvic floor exercises".

WRT to OP I have heard gems like "it's not the size of the wave but the motion of the ocean"  indicating style over size is ideal..

but with all the different types of waves.. I'm thinking girth plays a big part for a female.

he he i like that expression!!!

I have also heard the comeback from men, when a woman is mentioning the smaller size of the male organ not being as satisfactory.. " Well, maybe his little organ isn't used to playing in something the size of Westminster Abby!!" :o)

I think as long as he chap doesn't start coming to bed wearing a miners helmet and holding a canary, the woman is fine.
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Karen W. on 22/03/2009 14:11:20
Karen - three words for you "pelvic floor exercises".

WRT to OP I have heard gems like "it's not the size of the wave but the motion of the ocean"  indicating style over size is ideal..

but with all the different types of waves.. I'm thinking girth plays a big part for a female.
I did them for years and used the kiegle squeeze thingy but I couldn't tell if it helped....
I like that saying too...I have heard that one a lot.
 I'm curious....... who is conducting the study???
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Titanscape on 23/03/2009 06:50:18
I was thinking about the myths and to improve quality of life, a bit of science would help.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penis_size#Length

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vagina
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Chemistry4me on 23/03/2009 06:53:02
What are those links meant to tell us? [???]
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Variola on 23/03/2009 09:07:25
What are those links meant to tell us? [???]

I dunno but its given me a few mins of childish giggling.
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Titanscape on 23/03/2009 12:14:41
I was looking for links to studies I read years ago, in all the detail is the average length of the males and some idea of the females. Also, the clitoris is right up front. I heard, or read, that most women prefer the clitoral orgasm, and most women prefer the men's penis to be 5-6 inches long.
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Post by: Ethos on 26/03/2009 20:15:27
I personally wish there had been other options to this poll. For me, at least, sex is more about the state of mind rather than the physical attributes involved in it's exercise. Sex, and the expression of one's desire for another, revolves around the participants mutual surrender, and the trust needed to expose themselves totally to another. I believe that sex is, in short, an expression of the human need to be accepted and loved. The reason why promiscuity is so rampant these days stems from the confusion about the roll of sex in the human relationship. Without the involvement of real respect and love, the particapants will achieve little satisfaction and find themselves seeking additional partners in an unending quest to fulfill this basic need. As a result; the failure we see in all kinds of relationships in and out of marriage.....................Ethos
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: JnA on 26/03/2009 23:33:00
I personally wish there had been other options to this poll. For me, at least, sex is more about the state of mind rather than the physical attributes involved in it's exercise. Sex, and the expression of one's desire for another, revolves around the participants mutual surrender, and the trust needed to expose themselves totally to another. I believe that sex is, in short, an expression of the human need to be accepted and loved. The reason why promiscuity is so rampant these days stems from the confusion about the roll of sex in the human relationship. Without the involvement of real respect and love, the particapants will achieve little satisfaction and find themselves seeking additional partners in an unending quest to fulfill this basic need. As a result; the failure we see in all kinds of relationships in and out of marriage.....................Ethos


that's not sex.. that's love. Different ball game.

But there is an element of 'psychological pleasure' to the act of having sex.. but pleasure is different to 'attachment'.

Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Ethos on 26/03/2009 23:41:38






that's not sex.. that's love. Different ball game.

But there is an element of 'psychological pleasure' to the act of having sex.. but pleasure is different to 'attachment'.


True, but when people continue to separate the two, they find no real satisfaction. Sex without love becomes boring. And love without sex is an indication you've gotten too old...............Ethos
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Karen W. on 27/03/2009 02:53:39
I personally wish there had been other options to this poll. For me, at least, sex is more about the state of mind rather than the physical attributes involved in it's exercise. Sex, and the expression of one's desire for another, revolves around the participants mutual surrender, and the trust needed to expose themselves totally to another. I believe that sex is, in short, an expression of the human need to be accepted and loved. The reason why promiscuity is so rampant these days stems from the confusion about the roll of sex in the human relationship. Without the involvement of real respect and love, the particapants will achieve little satisfaction and find themselves seeking additional partners in an unending quest to fulfill this basic need. As a result; the failure we see in all kinds of relationships in and out of marriage.....................Ethos

I am afraid I tend to agree with you Ethos. Very well said!
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Ethos on 27/03/2009 03:53:15
I am afraid I tend to agree with you Ethos. Very well said!
Thank you Karen, I appreciate the kind words. You're such a sweet soul........................Ethos
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Variola on 27/03/2009 22:02:07
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True, but when people continue to separate the two, they find no real satisfaction. Sex without love becomes boring. And love without sex is an indication you've gotten too old...............Ethos

That is a nice expression, but I am not sure I agree with it entirely. Sex without love can be satisfying, ifboth parties knowingly participate witout prior expectations of love or attachment. It may not be satisfying in the emotional sense, but if that is not what someone is seeking then they are not missing out. This newer ( or not so new) fashion for a 'friend with benefit' or 'f**k buddy' is an indication of this.
Sex, is a different dimension from love and relationships and attachment.It's a physical act that we can use to procreate, to express love and affection, to achieve emotional satisfaction, to manipulate or dominate, to boost esteem or just because it feels damn good! And any other numbner of variations on the above.
What we choose to feel and precieve when sex happens, and after is what is key, not whether you are in love with someone or not.
Equally you can be in a loving relationship without sex ( and still not be too old for it!) It's all down to perception and expectation.

Meanwhile I will keep leaving my bedroom window open in case the Milk Tray man appears....  [;D]
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Karen W. on 27/03/2009 23:49:20
MAybe I should open my window for prince charming... except I love prince charming and wouldn't think of sex without that love being mutual!
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: JnA on 28/03/2009 01:11:46
I personally wish there had been other options to this poll. For me, at least, sex is more about the state of mind rather than the physical attributes involved in it's exercise. Sex, and the expression of one's desire for another, revolves around the participants mutual surrender, and the trust needed to expose themselves totally to another. I believe that sex is, in short, an expression of the human need to be accepted and loved. The reason why promiscuity is so rampant these days stems from the confusion about the roll of sex in the human relationship. Without the involvement of real respect and love, the particapants will achieve little satisfaction and find themselves seeking additional partners in an unending quest to fulfill this basic need. As a result; the failure we see in all kinds of relationships in and out of marriage.....................Ethos

I think you are confusing the roll of sex. Sex *is* all we need to procreate.. it doesn't require the level of emotional intimacy you are talking about. We can see examples of this throughout the animal kingdom.


True, but when people continue to separate the two, they find no real satisfaction. Sex without love becomes boring. And love without sex is an indication you've gotten too old.

I don't agree. Sex without love is nothing more than primal urge.. and the satisfaction comes from the act.. not the intimacy.
Love without sex has the intimacy but not the act... so the satisfaction comes from the companionship..

the two are not mutually exclusive.
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: Titanscape on 28/03/2009 04:13:49
So we distinguish, love from lust?
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: akhenaten on 28/03/2009 22:55:17
Regarding size it is a matter of match. Whereas some females openly seek well endowed men (8inches plus) some women find a penis bigger that six or seven inches big enough. Some women report that big penis such as 8 or 9 inches makes them feel/fear that they that are going to defecate during sex. Some women and men like to be fisted and to feel totally filled up. Fantasies abound, and some females envisage massive members but maybe their eyes are bigger that their ****s.
Then of course the penis size can change with age due to poorer blood criculation, ah last it comes to us all.
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: JnA on 29/03/2009 00:31:30
So we distinguish, love from lust?

I think we do.. even though it is often after the fact.
Title: Sensual Dimension Of Sex
Post by: yor_on on 10/02/2010 03:04:30
Probably that observation also may have something to do with their own 'private parts' akhenaten. Females differ in 'size' just like men do. And love is deeper than sex although both can be, as the ladies say, 'fulfilling' :)