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Physiology & Medicine / Re: What about the women who have Post Orgasmic Illness Syndrome (POIS)?
« on: 20/09/2016 07:58:38 »
So grateful to have found this forum. I'm finding myself a bit scared to read the posts. Hmm....not true what that's about. Of course I am so utterly frustrated and the few times I masterbate (sex, same), it literally like ruins my life. I make such bad decisions the next day- bc I am so self loathing, exhausted, headachy, zapped spiritually, out of touch with grace, pale, nauseous and unable to think- the decisions can sometimes affect me long term. Currently dealing with a terrible decision I made post orgasm =, and it's 10 months later (insert crying emoji) Maybe the emoji is too light- bc this is Very serious. I am still single at 44 and I am sure this has something to do with it. I'd consider myself more on the sexually anorectic side- was indeed raped as a child...I don't have a picture memory but felt it was my father. I was in sheer terror and screaming when I remembered. Also, I was told by a church lady that Gd just has me on a short leash (lol- she is in her 5-s and has never had a boyfriend even once and has resigned to being celibate and alone, which is right for her- but I felt she put that into my head and it was a very negative affirmation on sex, for me). I try to tell people it's more than just guilt- because I know you all understand it's deeper- it's spiritual, mental, physical, phsyological..it's multi layered. I did Not experience these symptoms with who I would consider the love of my life, in the 90's , when I was 25. I felt so pretty the next day after sex that I remember early on (sex was very new to me then), I was angry at him when he wouldn't have sex with me bc I had an audition the next day )lol). So I know it's possible, tucked away in there. My next relationship was an affair with a married man (before you go judgin, I was HORRIFIED at myself, even though I knew this guy was my boyfriend the second time we met then looked own at his hand and saw a ring on his finger.) And so we worked together (it was a work relationship for about a year and nothin- I resisted bc I am deeply moralistic- until one day it happened. Then I got sick - so sick- I quickly got out of it and became a christian (formerly a Jew)...but the nausea from sex with him hasn't seemed to leave me.
I hope it's more of a physiological thing- I think...bc I cant seem to get past the psychological- With Anyone. But I might try hypnosis. Would love more feedback on some solutions! Blessing to you all! We can get past this - I know we can!
I hope it's more of a physiological thing- I think...bc I cant seem to get past the psychological- With Anyone. But I might try hypnosis. Would love more feedback on some solutions! Blessing to you all! We can get past this - I know we can!