What makes you think that following your rules are right or good?I don't need to. And they aren't rules but tests: I ask the question and leave the respondent to decide whether his proposed action is justifiable .
What makes ignoring or violating them wrong or bad?They are tests, not rules, of justification (benefit/cost).
How can someone without a wife follow your second rule, e.g. kids, bachelors? or someone with more than 1 wife?It's never been a problem but the question can be adapted to suit the circumstances. I had an enthusiastic inventor wanting to trial his intravaginal ultrasound probe. I thought the electrical and thermal insulation were inadequate, so rather than argue about it, I said "stick it up your arse and switch it on". We never saw him again.