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« on: 03/09/2004 17:44:59 »
Fellows, if you met a young woman and had been wanting to find a wife, that's a life long committed relationship, that you even enter into with a prayer, how faithful do you want her? Or him as it is in ladies' cases.

Let's say she or he is the right one but not being brought really well, perhaps because of divorce... She confesses to being almost unable to stop having sexual phantasies and sometimes maturbates. She is honest and then do you tell her to have phantasies of you only when she can't help herself or what if she says she respects you and can't bear to think of you that way?

And do you ask her not to look at porn and perve?


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« Reply #1 on: 08/09/2004 03:35:10 »
Don't try to change someone else.  It won't work and you'll both be miserable for the trying.  If you can't live with her the way she is, keep shopping.

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« Reply #2 on: 25/08/2006 22:47:24 »
yes,keeping shopping you might see someone that you may love but not love you ........................if you love all wat she or he love and have may be by birth or other things love does not hate


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« Reply #3 on: 29/08/2006 19:18:41 »
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Originally posted by tweener

Don't try to change someone else.  It won't work and you'll both be miserable for the trying.  If you can't live with her the way she is, keep shopping.

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Exactly. People have their own little faults and habits. You can't change that or them. If you could change someone to be your perfect partner then it would be boring. There would be no excitement as nothing would catch you off guard.

Having fantasies is normal, it's also something that is very hard to stop, if not impossible. As long as the fantasies stay as fantasies then you shouldn't worry, it's when people try to act them out that trouble can follow. The same with masturbation, it's natural to fiddle, enjoy it, and dare I say it, join in. It's something that can make your sex life even more intense [;)]

Everyone has flaws, and to me these flaws attract me to a person. Granted some flaws are harder to accept, but if you really love the person you will accept it and even love them for it.

Everyone is unique and thank god

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« Reply #4 on: 29/08/2006 19:34:50 »
Mirage, of course flaws are parts of the very being of human. For one who believes he does not want to be flawed in any setting either in a family, work, friendship or intimate relationship must accept and acknowledge that the parties involved must have flaws even if they decide to conceal it from one's observation. To my best knowledge it solidifies relationship and makes stands the test of time.[:X][^][:)]

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« Reply #5 on: 29/08/2006 19:42:11 »
Ummmm, yeah

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« Reply #6 on: 29/08/2006 20:06:26 »
Are you on track with that?

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« Reply #7 on: 29/08/2006 20:14:39 »
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Originally posted by Titanscape

Fellows, if you met a young woman and had been wanting to find a wife, that's a life long committed relationship, that you even enter into with a prayer, how faithful do you want her? Or him as it is in ladies' cases.

Let's say she or he is the right one but not being brought really well, perhaps because of divorce... She confesses to being almost unable to stop having sexual phantasies and sometimes maturbates. She is honest and then do you tell her to have phantasies of you only when she can't help herself or what if she says she respects you and can't bear to think of you that way?

And do you ask her not to look at porn and perve?


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Hi Bren - Just out of curiosity, can she expect the same from you?  I don't think there is anything abnormal or immoral about having sexual fantasies (even if the fantasies aren't about your partner) or masturbating.  I'm speaking as a happily married woman of 19 years.  You can't force someone to only have fantasies of you and only you.  It just doesn't work like that.  I live on the coast and I see lots of gorgeous, half naked men.  You would be SHOCKED[:0]by what I was thinking (but my husband would'nt be surprised at all). Just as I am not shocked by him looking at half naked women.  I agree with Dan/Mirage.  Don't try to stop the fantasies - JOIN IN.  

Please bear in mind Bren, that what I said above, in my personal opinion is not acceptable for casual relationships. If you, or anyone else is looking for and expecting perfection in a relationship, you're in for a lonely life.  Good luck to you.

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« Reply #8 on: 29/08/2006 20:32:44 »
Fantasies have come to stay, it only needs one careful mind to hand it, perfection seem not be a quality of created beings like ours, Carolyn, is it not time to initiate fantasies club.............don't you concur

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« Reply #9 on: 29/08/2006 21:04:47 »
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Exactly. People have their own little faults and habits. You can't change that or them. If you could change someone to be your perfect partner then it would be boring. There would be no excitement as nothing would catch you off guard.

Having fantasies is normal, it's also something that is very hard to stop, if not impossible. As long as the fantasies stay as fantasies then you shouldn't worry, it's when people try to act them out that trouble can follow. The same with masturbation, it's natural to fiddle, enjoy it, and dare I say it, join in. It's something that can make your sex life even more intense [;)]

Everyone has flaws, and to me these flaws attract me to a person. Granted some flaws are harder to accept, but if you really love the person you will accept it and even love them for it.

Everyone is unique and thank god



I would go further how can you even have a relationship with a perfect person.  Don't relationships depend upon mutual need, and it is only by the inadequacies of an individual that the individual can come to need someone else.

The other problem with perfection is that when you add up all of the characteristics of whom you would consider to be a perfect person, or a perfect partner you would find them so riddled with contradictions that no human being could fulfil one requirement without violating another requirement somewhere else.  This, by the way, is also another reason why I don't believe it is possible to consider the the notion of a perfect God and how could one ever have a truly human relationship with a God or Godess.



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« Reply #10 on: 29/08/2006 21:15:11 »
I agree.

There is no perfect someone, it's a myth. You can have a lot in common with someone, love lots of things about that someone, but they will never be perfect. The strange thing is, you may well refer to them as being your perfect someone though.

To be honest at this point I have no idea if what I have said makes any sense as my brain still hasn't fully rebooted yet. Plus I don't feel very deep tonight [;)]

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« Reply #11 on: 29/08/2006 23:23:13 »
That was nice Dan and  what lovely thoughts. Nice to see you still postin!

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« Reply #12 on: 30/08/2006 04:16:52 »
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I agree.

There is no perfect someone, it's a myth. You can have a lot in common with someone, love lots of things about that someone, but they will never be perfect. The strange thing is, you may well refer to them as being your perfect someone though.

To be honest at this point I have no idea if what I have said makes any sense as my brain still hasn't fully rebooted yet. Plus I don't feel very deep tonight [;)]

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I agree Dan. Perfection is a fairy tale.  However, I posted in another thread "perfect combinations", that studmuffin and myself were a perfect combo.  I believe that.  We are so different.  Growin up he was the wild child, trouble making hellion, and I was the goody goody, Daddy's little girl.   It truly is comical.  But that works for us.  He's one of the biggest A**hole s-o-b I've ever met.  I'm not so easy to live with either.  Most of the time, we agree on everything.  Sometimes we have big monster arguments.  We always work through it.  Sometimes I even let him win.[;)]  The bottom line is this.  I trust my husband with my life and more importantly, the lives of my children.  And he, I hope, feels the same about me.  For me, that's as close to perfection as one can hope to get.

Ok all this mushy stuff is making me nauseated.

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« Reply #13 on: 30/08/2006 05:16:40 »
Yes, It is making one nauseated here...lol

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« Reply #14 on: 30/08/2006 05:21:12 »
I love it!!

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« Reply #15 on: 30/08/2006 05:27:45 »
You are the queen of romance!

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« Reply #16 on: 30/08/2006 08:50:40 »
who then happens to be the King, prince and princess

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« Reply #17 on: 30/08/2006 10:05:12 »

I love it too, more, more, more.

As I don't beleive that it could happen to me, I want to read

it from you lovely peeps here.

Enough to sustain me for the 2wks that I will be away for on my

hols. LOL


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« Reply #18 on: 30/08/2006 12:04:34 »
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who then happens to be the King, prince and princess

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Oh, I'm sure we have lots of princes and princesses - or at least pretenders to the throne [:)]  But not every prince or princess gets to be a King or a Queen.



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« Reply #19 on: 30/08/2006 12:11:59 »
So True George.
  Good morning my nice friend! Sleep came to me in a 7 and 1/2 hour block and I thank you for easing my spirit and helping me to sleep!! Thanks friend!


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« Reply #20 on: 30/08/2006 16:31:37 »
quote:
Originally posted by Carolyn

quote:
Originally posted by Mirage



I agree.

There is no perfect someone, it's a myth. You can have a lot in common with someone, love lots of things about that someone, but they will never be perfect. The strange thing is, you may well refer to them as being your perfect someone though.

To be honest at this point I have no idea if what I have said makes any sense as my brain still hasn't fully rebooted yet. Plus I don't feel very deep tonight [;)]

Some days it's not even worth knawing at the straps



I agree Dan. Perfection is a fairy tale.  However, I posted in another thread "perfect combinations", that studmuffin and myself were a perfect combo.  I believe that.  We are so different.  Growin up he was the wild child, trouble making hellion, and I was the goody goody, Daddy's little girl.   It truly is comical.  But that works for us.  He's one of the biggest A**hole s-o-b I've ever met.  I'm not so easy to live with either.  Most of the time, we agree on everything.  Sometimes we have big monster arguments.  We always work through it.  Sometimes I even let him win.[;)]  The bottom line is this.  I trust my husband with my life and more importantly, the lives of my children.  And he, I hope, feels the same about me.  For me, that's as close to perfection as one can hope to get.

Ok all this mushy stuff is making me nauseated.

Carolyn




It sounds like you both excite each other with not being able to agree sometimes and so argue. To me it all comes down to the little things that can get under your skin, not in a big way, so you find your parnter exciting and interesting. I want someone who isn't going to agree with me all the time, have silly agruments and then make up again. I want to be interested in what a partner has to say, the way she thinks. The 'perfect' partner for me is someone who has similar traits to me but is completely different.....if that makes any sense.



Thank you Karen [:X]




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« Reply #21 on: 30/08/2006 16:50:44 »
Makes perfect sense to me.  In fact, hubby and I are having a small disagreement now.  I'm very annoyed with him.  He will be coming home for lunch soon.  I'm sure we'll argue at lunch but look forward to the making up for dessert.

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« Reply #22 on: 30/08/2006 16:57:54 »
Good, I wasn't sure as sometimes what I say doesn't always make sense.

So whipped cream for dessert then   [;)]

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« Reply #23 on: 30/08/2006 17:12:12 »
I don't do arguments well maybe that is one of the reasons why I have never been in a long term romantic relationship but I would hate to be with someone who always agreed with me (in fact, I find nothing more disconcerting than having people agree with me it makes me feel I should be disagreeing with myself).



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« Reply #24 on: 30/08/2006 17:24:17 »
........... I agree.........

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« Reply #25 on: 31/08/2006 04:26:20 »
LOL  Should I or shouldn't I agree....where is Shakespeare when I need'em![:(]

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« Reply #26 on: 31/08/2006 04:32:39 »
I am staying in a nuetral position as I hate arguing bit, i can be good at it if I have to!!

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« Reply #27 on: 31/08/2006 04:37:23 »
LOL  I think arguing is healthy, wouldn't you agree...(according to those who like to make up anyways!) LOL  Okay, maybe I do run off to my bedroom to hide to avoid it...but why fight, the results will still be the same...ta ta ta!!

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« Reply #28 on: 31/08/2006 04:46:59 »
25 years and I still don't like to argue. That doesn't mean I don't like to have a nice dicussion. no arguing but to talk like rational humans. I do know their are times when moments can be heated, I still don't like it though tends to make me sick.I avoid it where possible.

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« Reply #29 on: 31/08/2006 05:25:24 »
Well we did argue at lunch, but weren't able to reach an agreement until much later.  I don't mind simple arguments/disagreements. Those are normal, and I also think healthy to some degree. Big arguments make me sick too.  I'm an emotional fighter and generally say things I regret later.  Usually regret it as soon as I say it.  Thankfully, those arguments are few and far between.


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« Reply #30 on: 31/08/2006 05:28:12 »
Just avoid it if possible...I can't right now unless I hide out in my bedroom...as it will not change my mind about my decision...it is stressful!!Aaagghh!

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« Reply #31 on: 31/08/2006 05:48:46 »
Boy Loretta I hear ya!! We have never had big arguements. The only big problem was when he cheated, wow that was the biggie in 25 years that is the only one i think we have ever had. It was the worse pain and anger I had felt until recently! I guess for 25 years thats not to bad. Our problem didn't lie there . Just isn't what it should be. I have tried but he doesn't want to make an effort so we are at a stalemate. Life is so weird.
  Carolyn you and hubby sound great and I think you must have a very special relationship!
  I think my husband and I do, but it is not one of marraige. We both care about each other, trust him with my life always have. But not with my heart. If you can't intrust your heart to the one you love then you really can never love freely and give all of your love so something is always missing.I can be pretty intense and I think that is very hard for him. He was not raised with the emotional expressions of love. In 25 years i may have recied 3 kisses in public...Whooooo. Thrills!! Its not his fault he just is not comfortable with open displays of love not even a kiss in front of his kids, very rare!He openly showed affection to them untill they were teenagers then it just disappeared as if they did not need it anymore... I had to prod him to hug his daughter win her first boyfriend broke he heart! He just doesn't get it! Oh well, I am glad someones hubby gets it!!!LOL

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« Reply #32 on: 31/08/2006 06:39:11 »
I know what you mean Karen...so sad.  I admire you for staying married that length of time...

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« Reply #33 on: 31/08/2006 08:39:06 »
Hes a good man, We just have moved apart we are friends, although the tension sometimes worries me that we won't remain that way if we do not make some decisions.

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« Reply #34 on: 31/08/2006 16:36:39 »
I really like you guys, you're all so honest about your feelings, I think it is wonderful.
You are all starting to become very close to me, I can't really explain it, all I know is when someone has a good heart it attract me to them. You all attract me because you are all lovely, lovely isn't the word, you are all so very beautiful to me.

I agree with you all about agruing. I hate it, I never had the stomach for it. My ex and I used to argue all the time, I told her I hated arguing so I guess she made up more reasons to argue with me all the time. Safe to say that is the reason why we split, well, one of them that is [;)] Even though we did argue we made up pretty quickly, most of the time, however most of the time I just kept my mouth shut and accepted everything.
I guess it came down to that we didn't communicate well with each other. Communication is key to any relationship. Could say that we communicated like being on a mobile while driving through a tunnel and losing the signal all the time.....it was nice to have peace and quiet though, that was my favourite part of it all [;)]

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« Reply #35 on: 31/08/2006 17:44:26 »
 Yes I felt the same way for years but it builds up inside and one becomes bitter from swallowing words and feelings and being styfled. It makes one bitter and distant . That is not how I want to live. I love life and music and fun and smiles I need smiles so much now. I love this forum it has brightened my heart and helped me find a part of me that has been lost for so long. I knew it was hiding  but I couldn't coax it back out for the life of me. I am pretty much a softy and a romantic fool, but that is the real me and the part that has been hiding away because people close to me hate this about me. I'm just a mush pot of emotions and can't not say how I feel. I'm supposed to suck it up and take it on the chin, and the older I get the less sucking it up  I can do! I dispise arguing and do not mind simply talking and listening and discussing, but arguing does indeed bother me, we have all done it and wow, its terrible. I do not do well with confrontations or fighting or violence on Tv or otherwise. Makes me physically ill! I thinkits my bodies way of protecting myself. If I am sick and over in the loo, I don't have to argue right!!!LOL Maybe thats it who knows why one  emotions make one feel as they do! I just know that I am going to allow my emotions to aid me in whatever means are appropriate for me!! I cannot afford to allow myself to get back in a whole and cover up my head. No more sucking it up! If I'm sad then dang it I'm sad. If I am full or joy or crap, then so be it. Thats the way it is. At least I know who I am again and maybe thats not so bad!!!

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Re: Girlfriend/boyfriend fidelity
« Reply #36 on: 31/08/2006 18:10:46 »
You should be true to yourself, and if some people don't like certain qualities then it's their hard luck. You are a wonderful person and should not be left to feel that you must hide these amazing qualities. Let them shine, let yourself shine and once you do, better people will start noticing and be drawn to you. I'm sure that a lot of people on here are drawn to you, I know I am. You have a great heart, a lovely personality, smart and you definitely have a great sense of humour

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« Reply #37 on: 31/08/2006 18:17:20 »
I am afraid my sense of humor is pretty low, I am pretty naieve sometimes as i said alot of things just fly over my head and do not bother stopping to allow me to get it!! Takes me  awhile. Some things I am quicker at but not humor. LOL I am greatful for these 3 little letters, LOL or I might get into serious trouble sometimes and take things wrong! Thanks for your encouragement your a nice fellow! How old are you? Do you mind me asking or is that a secret?

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« Reply #38 on: 31/08/2006 18:25:40 »
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Could say that we communicated like being on a mobile while driving through a tunnel and losing the signal all the time



Nobody told you you should not be communicating on a mobile at all while driving, much less when driving through tunnels [:)][}:)]



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« Reply #39 on: 31/08/2006 18:27:24 »
How old would everyone like me to be? [;)]

I'm really 23, 24 come November. Sometimes I feel at least 77 and a half

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« Reply #40 on: 31/08/2006 18:30:05 »
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quote:
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Could say that we communicated like being on a mobile while driving through a tunnel and losing the signal all the time



Nobody told you you should not be communicating on a mobile at all while driving, much less when driving through tunnels [:)][}:)]



George




I would have been fine if we had crashed.....no airbag my side....peace and quiet [;)]

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« Reply #41 on: 31/08/2006 18:32:32 »
AAHH your just a babe!!  No wonder you are having so much fun!!! You are too funny , who'd a thunk!!

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« Reply #42 on: 31/08/2006 18:32:52 »
I was thinking about the communication gap in relationships, and it happens all too often.

Dan has said about people writing about how they feel on this forum, and it occurred to me that it is actually sometimes easier to write out your feelings than to talk about them.  Maybe couples should write to each other more often to say the things they may be embarrassed to say, or fearful that they would be interrupted mid flow, and only have half said what they wanted to say.

Writing things out can give you the space to properly think out what it is you want to say, put it down, and even alter it, before blurting out the wrong thing.



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« Reply #43 on: 31/08/2006 18:34:26 »
OH don't think like that bad omens, LOL

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« Reply #44 on: 31/08/2006 18:36:49 »
George - you are so right.  I can't tell you how many times I've thought of this very thing.  It would definately cut down on my "things I regret" list.  

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« Reply #45 on: 31/08/2006 19:13:50 »
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AAHH your just a babe!!  No wonder you are having so much fun!!! You are too funny , who'd a thunk!!

Karen



Why thank you.

I may well be young but I feel that my mind has aged at an incredible rate. I became a security guard near the end of my teens and from all the responsibility I was given came things that I had to learn to understand. There are some things that have happened that I can't talk about, can't bring myself to do so. I have seen many horrors of working in a notorious area, things that have left me in some sense of shock for quite sometime. Once you leave any form of school life you're never quite prepared for the things that you will encounter or have to deal with. On a daily basis you can be left feeling stressed, sad, and shock from whatever befell you that day. There are good days, but hey, that's life, always some new surprise for you.

George, I find it easier to write how I feel, there is only really one person who I can talk to and share a lot of secrets with. My best mate Jon has been my rock through the years, love him to bits.
I totally agree with you though, writing does give you the space you need. That's why I love to write.

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« Reply #46 on: 31/08/2006 19:23:33 »
Your right george about righting I have tried for 25 years to get my husband to write down what he feels, the closest he has ever come was while driving long haul across the country, His heart was with me in his emails. Not since what a shame. I wish things were different but sometimes things happen for the best even when they feel like the worst!!

 DAn I understand where you are comming from and my young life was wrought with pain shock and humiliation and I have the same release in writing. I try not to share the painful writing as it is just for myself. Choose better to write of love happiness and good things so as not to dwell on the bad!!! You are fortunate to have such a friend and confident!


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« Reply #47 on: 31/08/2006 19:27:05 »
I do prefer to write more about love rather than pain but the painful memories never fade, and for me I need them. It helps me through whatever painful moment could be next. I use a lot of my experiences to learn how to better myself and to be a better person all round.

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« Reply #48 on: 31/08/2006 19:30:20 »
Yep me too. Her I am wrote you that last post and now I am crying , see what I mean, realizations are tough sometimes you know!!

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« Reply #49 on: 31/08/2006 19:33:01 »
Aww don't cry hun [:X]

If you need something to make you laugh have a look at me dressed up as Fred Flintstone in the what do you look like thread.

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