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quote:Originally posted by another_someoneWith regard to this new girl, you have to ask yourself what your real feelings are. Do you really love the girl for herself, and wish her the best for whatever life brings her; or is she simply some prize to be gained in this competition between yourself and another guy, something to be possessed by yourself or your challenger?George
quote:Originally posted by another_someoneAlso, don't think for one moment that girls want 'perfect guys' (any more than guys want 'perfect girls'). People want real people, and one falls in love with someone as much for their weaknesses as their strengths. Maybe this is the right girl for you, maybe she is not; but the girl that falls in love with you will want both the strengths and the weaknesses in you – for your strength is what she will need when she is feeling weak, and your weakness is when she will feel that she can be strong to help you. Only the feeblest of women could cope with a 'perfect guy', since a guy without weakness needs nothing from a girl, so what would the girl have to offer him in terms of a real relationship (as distinct from just trophy hunting).Ofcourse, it would be naïve to believe that this 'perfect guy' is really as perfect as you make out – I am sure that he too has his weaknesses, even if you cannot at present see them.George
quote:Originally posted by underdogFirst of all, thank you for replying, I appreciate it, and sorry if you've found difficulty in understanding my English (It isn't my main language)
quote:(I shouldn't be blamed, this is the very first real girl I ever have a crush on)
quote:I totally agree, maybe he isn't perfect, maybe she doesn't want a "perfect" guy, but I wish you were here to see her as she was so excited when he talked to her after he totally sparkled in biochemistry, I feel jealous indeed.
quote:I'd like to talk about a little something here, I've always thought that I'm very good looking because that's what many people always kept saying to me throughout my life, but recently I lost that because of my family, they keep telling me that I'm so slim, and I've nerdy-haircut and a failed-tan (While my friends say that my haircut isn't nerdy and it fits better than anything else)see the confliction? now I stay in front of a mirror for couple of hours daily, and looking at my reflection anywhere i go, even looking at my shadow.
quote:Originally posted by another_someoneIf you had not mentioned it, I would not have known that English was not your first language (I see from your IP address that you are in fact Egyptian, but your English is good enough that it does not show).
quote:To me, jealousy is a destructive emotion. If you like this girl, try and spend time with her, and show to her that you enjoy being with her. If she sees you are happy with her, that will be infectious and she will be happy being with you. If you show that all the time you are with her all you can think about is the unhappiness that you feel about the fact that she enjoys being with someone else, then that unhappiness will also be infectious, and she will feel uncomfortable being with you.
quote:This one is very simple – stop worrying about what you look like. There are some pretty ugly guys who still know how to charm a girl off her feet, and some absolutely wonderful looking guys who simply do not know how to make a girl happy.