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I don't know Ryan... I keep asking myself that about my heart to.. I love so much it hurts and I can't turn it off I tried.. but it doesn't work... I think that is something I will never understand.. I am someone who falls with their whole heart and soul and It never stops no matter what the other person does to you or how bad they treat you.. I don't get it myself..
Its kinda like a child that is abused badly by a parent but the child has made such an incredible bond with parent that the parent in the child's eyes can do no wrong... and the child still holds on to that love that is in their heart even in the face of the reality of the abuse...Children love unconditionally as they have not experienced the world or had the hurts and disappointments that one has as they mature and grow older.We all strive for that unconditional love, but as older adults we put limits on how we offer up our love. We put conditions up, actually sabotaging ourselves at times with unreal expectations of what love really is and how we give and receive that love.
I know you are a young man But When I was young I was abused and experienced this same kinda of bond like I spoke of.. As an adult I fell in love actually I was 18, first date, first holding of hands, first kiss, first everything and to this day the only date kiss hand holding, first everything, I have ever been involved with and I am 47 years old. I thought I was so in love and we were such good friends we were married and have been for 27 years together for 29 years. I thought our marriage was just the way it was supposed to be because I knew no other way! It was not a great marriage. No communication amongst a lot of other things. He made me feel stupid all the time and worthless. Kids house the chores the yard work maintenances repairs fixing of broken electronics everything was my job.. I was never allowed to call a repair man. Little did I know, It was me that needed to be fixed.. I took the blame for everything that went wrong.. I still do. I can't help it! It is still the scared child inside of me. Even though I know the difference my brain doesn't. It's habit I guess.
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I bonded with him and knew no other love. He was gentle, and after being repeatedly abused by my stepfather, I thought I had met the greatest man on earth! We clicked and got along good, very seldom having words but even less having affection I thought that was the way it should be.. as my man experience had not been good!
I tried for years to do more fun things, be the wonderful wife, fix his meals, rub his feet after work, do whatever he wanted to help him relax.. usually he wanted me to go clean something the less talk and interaction the better.. It got to where if I really needed to talk to him about lack of affection the kids or just love.. or the stars,a rainbow,or whatever. I had to do it once we were in the car driving down the road, because then he couldn't bail out and had to talk or at least listen to resolve whatever was happening. I hated it! More and more we grew apart because of lack of affection, communication, sadness and loneliness. You can live in the same house for 29 years and be the loneliest person on the planet!
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He was not mean like physically hitting me or things like that. My husband was a gentle man and is.. as of late has scared me a couple times, but his heart was not with me. It was elsewhere. No matter how much I loved him and do to an extent now, it just isn't right. There was never passion or the right kind of love, or repect for that matter. He always had other partners besides me. Some how I knew for years and didn't face it.. I loved him more then anything.. but he didn't love me. Then one day he admitted it and my life fell apart. Everything from my childhood came up and slapped me in the face and I shut down for two years,,, I won't go into detail but it took a long time to stand up again. And still like that infant or child that clings to the parent or loved one even in the face of the truth holding on.. I still could not accept it and he wanted to stay he was afraid to leave I would say please go then he would say he didn't want to.. and if he did, then I got so upset that he was going to go that it was a cycle, and it has taken years to get where I am. I still have had new surprises, he is here again wanting to stay and take care of me but at this juncture I have finally come to a point of saying goodbye to him. As I cannot continue with the stress of his life on mine. It is killing me. Ryan I will always love him no matter what he did or said.. but It's not like you just wake up one day and theres no love.. Its just that I finally seen I was the only one ever in love... Love takes two people .. at least the right kind of love.. I missed the boat! I could love him for a life time and I will BUT..it will never change the way he feels towards me. He is a good father loves his children so much, but does not love me.
Now, I do know what it is like to really fall in love and have.. but sometimes in life timing and our own present situations take priority and we cant erase our pasts our obligations and it just makes things impossible. Not that love stops, it Does not.. It changes, it stays in your heart and continues to grow and hopefully That love will be there for always... I am too old for all this love stuff. You are young You do have your whole life ahead of you...Enjoy it and love every minute of really being in love and loving someone and having them love you so much your hearts feel they will burst!
Hugs to you Ryan Your a great kid.. Love never stops if you keep it safe in your heart and cherish the memories and always remember!! Sometimes that is all we have or need. Love is wonderful, and Yet sometimes it can still just break your heart!
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Sorry Ryan It has been an emotional day today and I am really sorry I rambled so!
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ITs fine.
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Good! Better be.. LOL! Teach you to ask me a serious question like that, won't it? LOL
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Haha. That's true.
I'm sure i'll get some more complicated/serious questions before i'm done with this site.
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that was a difficult question.
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Yes I know it was. s
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No Worries.. LOL We all ask them sometimes, doesn't mean we always get the right answer some answers will only come to you through years of experience!
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I see
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Yeah right.. You see.. Where did you disappear too! LOL
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Today was a weird day.
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Same here.
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actually today WAS weird...
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Sheesh so many people had a weird day at once.
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well now we're all curious...
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