[kdlynn]

i think you are attracted to what you are programmed to consider healthy and strong. the whole point is reproduction right? makes sense to want to produce healthy kids

[elegantlywasted]

Thank you kadie... that was my point!!! [] Glad somebody got it

[another_someone]

It depends upon what you regard as 'healthy and strong'.  Social status is as much a relevant attractant as physiological health (rich men and politicians have no trouble finding someone to sleep with, no matter what their health situation - although it might be argued that physical health might also contribute to the development of social status, but there is not an exact correlation).

[jolly]

Well you might consider yourself to be a simple game theory, gene robot, who is clearly programmed to find centain things attractive!

I do not consider that to be a reality!

You are free to find anything attractive, and while there are certainly genetic areas for attraction, personality, social constructs, beer, and many other things contribute!

At the end of the day you could like someone who go's against all your genetic belifs- Look at Danny Devito the guys a stud!

[Karen W.]

Hi Jolly!

[another_someone]

At the end of the day you could like someone who go's against all your genetic belifs- Look at Danny Devito the guys a stud!

Not sure where this information comes from.  He seems to have only been married once (and still married), and does not seem (as far as I can ascertain) to have had a long list of girlfriends.

That having been said, I am sure that is his choice, rather than a choice forced upon him; since I am sure he has more than enough money and status to be able to attract as many girls as he chooses.

[paul.fr]

At the end of the day you could like someone who go's against all your genetic belifs- Look at Danny Devito the guys a stud!

Not sure where this information comes from.  He seems to have only been married once (and still married), and does not seem (as far as I can ascertain) to have had a long list of girlfriends.

That having been said, I am sure that is his choice, rather than a choice forced upon him; since I am sure he has more than enough money and status to be able to attract as many girls as he chooses.

DeVito is married to actress Rhea Perlman, with whom he has three children. I think, he may actually love the woman!
Money and status are one thing, but he does not need them to attract women, if he has already found "the one".

[kdlynn]

i think you just have to follow your intuition when you are looking for someone. whether we know it or not, we all know what we want!

[another_someone]

i think you just have to follow your intuition when you are looking for someone. whether we know it or not, we all know what we want!

Maybe that is why I have remained single - I never trust my instincts - and the few occasions I have followed them, I found them seriously wanting in judgement.

[kdlynn]

sometimes you get hurt. but you never know if it's the right person unless you try, right?

[paul.fr]

Maybe that is why I have remained single - I never trust my instincts - and the few occasions I have followed them, I found them seriously wanting in judgement.

I go for looks, i don't care about personality or intellect. As long as she stands out in the crowd that's fine by me. Well, until she starts trying to get me to watch soap opera's!!! then it's time to move on.

[kdlynn]

but wouldn't standing out in a crowd be a personality thing?

[another_someone]

A friend of ours, a lesbian, introduced one of us to her new girlfriend. And this new girlfriend looked very masculine. Excuse my crudeness but she was butch. This raised the question, why be a lesbian if you are still attracted to a masculine physique?

What is meant in this case by saying she is a lesbian?

Do you mean that she was generally attracted to women, or that she was in this case attracted to this woman?

Was she maybe bi?

Alternatively, did she have a problem with men in some other way - liked someone who looked a bit masculine, but could not get on with men is some way other than appearance?

[paul.fr]

but wouldn't standing out in a crowd be a personality thing?

No. if she is just stood there, on your arm how would anyone know her personality? They would only know that she looked good!  []

[another_someone]

I go for looks, i don't care about personality or intellect. As long as she stands out in the crowd that's fine by me.

This, to be honest, given what you said about food and visual appeal, does not surprise me at all.  You are clearly strongly affected by visual appeal.

There is only one aspect of visual appeal that realy has a significant impact on me and that is rithym - this applies also to rithym of voice, but also to rithym of movement.

But, to be fair, I find that the things that attract me to a woman when I first meet her will bore me by the time I get to know her - by then, I had better be able to find something more to hold my interest.

I also sometimes am actually wary of girls who are too attractive - I often take the view that if they are that good looking they have never really had to work at a relationship, or at much else, because they will just have men falling over themselves to do everything for her.  That kind of woman really is someone I would rather stay away from.

[another_someone]

No. if she is just stood there, on your arm how would anyone know her personality? They would only know that she looked good!  []

Sorry, I cannot really regard a woman (or anybody else) as just a bit of jewelry - but then, I don't go much for jewelry anyway.

[another_someone]

sometimes you get hurt. but you never know if it's the right person unless you try, right?

You can lose a lot of good friends that way - women who feel safe with you because they believe you are not interested in them romantically.

[kdlynn]

oops i read that wrong paul. i thought you also said you didn't care about looks. lol... at least i can type today

[kdlynn]

i don't know. i was that girl once but after my friend brought it up we remained friends. he's actually one of my best friends now because he was honest with me.

[kdlynn]

then again i was honest right back. that's where people get all mixed up