Attraction in relation to appearance

jolly · « **Reply #140 on:** 12/05/2007 23:44:10 »

Quote from: Karen W. on 12/05/2007 06:56:18

Quote from: jolly on 12/05/2007 05:17:35
Liar! just wont admit it! night sleep well!

Jolly, what is going on with you and Kadie..? That seemd way inappropriate!

please explain the inappropriateness of this post.

I think she likes danny devito- she says she doesnt know him- I think shes lying! whats the problem?

jolly · « **Reply #141 on:** 12/05/2007 23:52:35 »

Quote from: paul.fr on 12/05/2007 15:49:17

Quote from: Karen W. on 12/05/2007 15:45:55
For the most part attraction for me comes in different stages and areas not really on looks at all. Yes eyes are nice faces are all nice but build has nothing to do with it for me.. I want to know what comes from the heart and when I talk with someone if I do not feel that then I know that I could never be attracted to someone who did not firstly have a good heart!

Now I think it should all be done.. OK..

But Karen, when you are first meeting someone, or in the first few day or weeks of a relationship you are always on your best behaviour. Say and do the right things, pit the toilet seat down.....

It's only later that the real person shows, unless they are a complete buffoon and act like it from day 1.

I totally dis-agree with this type of behaviour! Why hide who you are that can only lead to problems later on...

Surely it is better to be honest and not lie.. I know its hard, and I know you dont own a jag, but seriously why lie when they find out it will always cause problems and shows a certain amount of insecurity!
People should be happy with themselves and not feel like they have to be someone else to get anywhere!
If the person doesnt want the real you then move on... Ofcourse a lot of men just want sex and therefore lie to get it and then run off!

Just thinking about 'when Harry met Sally' Theres the line he says to her:- 'after sex men just wonder how long do I have to lay here before I can leave?'

That is a total simptom of guilt- He's done all sorts of stuff to get sex and then after the fact- feels guilty and wants to run off!

Karen W. · « **Reply #142 on:** 13/05/2007 01:10:27 »

Quote from: jolly on 12/05/2007 23:44:10

Quote from: Karen W. on 12/05/2007 06:56:18
Quote from: jolly on 12/05/2007 05:17:35
Liar! just wont admit it! night sleep well!

Jolly, what is going on with you and Kadie..? That seemed way inappropriate!

please explain the inappropriateness of this post.

I think she likes Danny devito- she says she doesn't know him- I think shes lying! whats the problem?

Jolly it is OK to think he is lying, but to call someone a liar in the forum is inappropriate . It is not for us to be calling people names in here.. I just want everyone to try to be less aggressive toward each other here in the forum... You are all welcome to opinions but if you have problems you need to deal with them privately. If that person chooses to not answer mails or messages you need to just know they do not wish to discuss it further. We cannot say derogative things about other members even if we don't agree. Those things we keep to ourselves to ensure that others feelings are not hurt .. including mine.. It is uncomfortable to here or see that on the forum. Just try to not be quite so expressive..no name calling please.. message me if you need to talk further about it!

jolly · « **Reply #143 on:** 13/05/2007 02:15:54 »

How anyone could be upset coz I said they were lying about fancying danny devito- I mean come on! Unless they are lying- ofcourse...lol

Karen W. · « **Reply #144 on:** 13/05/2007 02:35:48 »

I know Jolly Just try to keep it lighter in the forum for me ok!

I enjoyed your post in the beaver thread. I can't remember what the thread was called..LOL some Moderator I am.. LOL I think it was a great post. Perfect!

jolly · « **Reply #145 on:** 13/05/2007 03:59:33 »

Thankyou lady, Glad to help people by talking about beaver!

kdlynn · « **Reply #146 on:** 13/05/2007 04:18:19 »

i just meant it was inappropiate for him to say paul wanted a vagina that does dishes or whatever. that was mean. paul wants a nice pretty girl.

Karen W. · « **Reply #147 on:** 13/05/2007 04:27:29 »

Yes I understood that part also.. I know what Paul meant.. It was inappropriate.... I had not caughtthat part when I posted to you.. Sorry.. Thanks Kadie!

How was the wedding..? Was it beautiful..? I bet it was!

Karen W. · « **Reply #148 on:** 13/05/2007 04:28:05 »

Quote from: jolly on 13/05/2007 03:59:33

Thankyou lady, Glad to help people by talking about beaver!

Thanks for making such a nice post!

kdlynn · « **Reply #149 on:** 13/05/2007 04:30:05 »

um... yes it was i think i'm ok now but i think i called my ex

Karen W. · « **Reply #150 on:** 13/05/2007 04:31:24 »

Is that good or bad?

kdlynn · « **Reply #151 on:** 13/05/2007 04:33:17 »

we'll find out tomorrow!

Karen W. · « **Reply #152 on:** 13/05/2007 04:40:39 »

LOL.. I hope you are ok.. Me don't drink but I hope me won't have to feel your pain tomorrow.. LOL

kdlynn · « **Reply #153 on:** 13/05/2007 04:42:12 »

i don't get hangovers. i have only ever had 2. ok i guess that's not never but still

jolly · « **Reply #154 on:** 13/05/2007 04:46:51 »

wait a minute paul said "who cares about her personality when shes on your arm"!!!!!!

That kinda implys he just wants somthing that looks pretty but has no personality- which is a very demeaning attitude many men have towards women.. he may have been joking but even so...
that comment is surely worse than mine- as at least I was aruging that women should be given more respect than that!

kdlynn · « **Reply #155 on:** 13/05/2007 04:48:00 »

no fighting. i love you all

Karen W. · « **Reply #156 on:** 13/05/2007 04:54:59 »

Jolly I think it was the fact that it was used as if Paul said it like a quote from "Paul.." I do however see what you mean, but do not think Paul meant it like that..

I do believe you have all talked about it already I assume so it is done.. We can move on and Like Kadie said I love you all!..

Jolly how is the weather there? Kadie How was the weather for the wedding? Was it inside or outside?

kdlynn · « **Reply #157 on:** 13/05/2007 04:59:37 »

the ceremony was outside but the reception was inside. it was beautiful

Karen W. · « **Reply #158 on:** 13/05/2007 05:03:31 »

Very Nice. I was married here at the house outside in my yard..nothing at all fancy! Simple actually!

kdlynn · « **Reply #159 on:** 13/05/2007 05:05:28 »

simple sounds nice.