[Karen W. (OP)]

No Problem! I did not take it as a pessimistic post!

I do believe we all want similar things and sometimes those things are different in the manner we have to give or get them accomplished.
 I find it greatly difficult to make friends for anything other then just a social hello and a few chuckles.. everything else seems to be too complicated  for most people..
 I just the other day had someone who I had befriended tell me after finding out that my life has more of an expiration date on it that they no longer wished to be friends with me as that meant worrying about me too. so I said goodbye.. have had contact once again but My feelings are hurt to the point that someone could be so small.
I am trying to think that this person just cannot handle situations that may involve death, disabilities, etc...
It made me feel very disposable and really small. I realized how tiny we are in lifes big picture..

[yor_on]

Jezez, that stinks Karen.

You're better of without them.

[Karen W. (OP)]

 i hope to think  that this is just a learning experience nd that maybe minds will grow. Mine too!

[EatsRainbows]

I do believe we all want similar things and sometimes those things are different in the manner we have to give or get them accomplished.

my theory is, well why do the psychological sciences work? A good psychologist can at times work out more about you than you know about yourself! There must be some standard that makes us all 'the same'.

have had contact once again but My feelings are hurt to the point that someone could be so small.
I am trying to think that this person just cannot handle situations that may involve death, disabilities, etc...
It made me feel very disposable and really small.

It says a world more about them than it does about you! They are missing out on a good opportunity to learn from your experiences vicariously and by being there for you. That's their loss! I do know so very much how you feel, its a right pain not being able to make friends etc easily! but i think that it helps to stay positive, "no one can make you feel inferior unless you give your consent" (i forget who said that  [] )

I can't say i know why people have no interest in 'intense' situations from which i think they could gain a positive experience, such as this, and such as my life and experience. Unfortunately many don't want to take it on. One of my friends thinks that it could be because people don't want to face the fact that their 'problems' are small as relative to yours... could be... or maybe not???.. all i can say is.... its their loss!

[Karen W. (OP)]

Yes! I do wonder who gave my brain the okay to feel inferior, because it is a constant struggle for me...
Thank you for your kind thoughts...
I am sure there must be something in this persons life that makes them feel that way. I do not hold that against them just wish I could understand why? I do not believe my life is better off without the person, as I feel that every person who enters my life does so, with a purpose unbeknownst to me or anyone else, and from that meeting or those experiences we learn or gain  things from our lives. Something in our own minds, if only the realization that not any two humans are the same and we all are raised differently from one another. Maybe similar, but in the end, we are all humans, and basically want similar things, and different Things in our lives.

[yor_on]

Karen, some people never cease to astonish me. You seem just as such a one that people would enjoy to be around, maternal, fun and nourishing. It is to their own loss if they can't see that, just as Rainbow wrote. I hope that your Karaoke bar is a god one, and that you find some new friends . But keep it cool, I suspect that you just need a change of environment to shake yourself loose from those negative vibrations some delivered recently.

[Karen W. (OP)]

Well I did not go to karaoke tonight I ended up staying in bed.. my son and ex husband collaborated on a dinner meal and I let my back relax, the rest of the evening.. it was still to sore to try to sit up for several hours at the karaoke bar in the casino. I rested all day in hopes I would feel better but when it came time to try I was still a down bird!
Tomorrow is early physical therapy in the pool so Perhaps that will help!
Thank you for the encouragement it is appreciated.