[moonfire]

I don't know how i feel about them today...I could not have a bit of privacy after I awakened and in hopes of more sleep...aagghh!  lol

"Lo" Loretta

[4getmenot (OP)]

most definatly....

k

[neilep]

quote:Originally posted by moonfire

I don't know how i feel about them today...I could not have a bit of privacy after I awakened and in hopes of more sleep...aagghh!  lol

"Lo" Loretta

surely there was a time when you have loved ?[]

Men are the same as women, just inside out !

[neilep]

quote:Originally posted by 4getmenot

most definatly....

k

...are you saying you have no love for your family K ?



Men are the same as women, just inside out !

[moonfire]

LOL  Yes, there was a time that I loved...but I loved and lost...roulette is nothing fun in the game of life...I love my family and only wish they would give me time to clear my head and give me a moment or two besides hearing me get up and then bombard my bedroom!!!

"Lo" Loretta

[4getmenot (OP)]

Seems like the busiest time in the bathroom is when I want to take a bath.....that just seems to always work out when everyone just wants to come in and talk...why is that???lolool...

k

[moonfire]

You have kids right K?  Yep!  Same here...kid still bugs me when I am in the bathroom...he is 19 this Saturday!  LOL

"Lo" Loretta

[4getmenot (OP)]

lol....19??? yep, well i guess it doesn't stop then??? so i guess i CAN'T look forward to it getting any better...lol

k

[moonfire]

Psssst, K...I don't want my kid to see this so I am going to let you in on a secret...it is when they have moved out...LOCK the door, quick before they change their mind...awww, bubblebaths, candlelight, mozart, vin, and a daydream or two...oh, darn..my mom lives in my condo too!  Awww, send her on a vacation...and enjoy peace and quiet...oh, crudola...there is a cat who needs to be fed...glaring at me as if he knows I want to be left alone...cage him up in birdcage with Tweetie pie...let the strongest one win on the patio of course...back to my fantasy...sorry have to go...phone is ringing!  Drats!  Can't everyone leave me alone for a moment or two???

"Lo" Loretta

[lightarrow]

About Love, (by the way, this is the most important thing of life, to me) I feel there are many (maybe infinite?) kinds of it; when someone says, for example that, love between 14 y.o. boy and girl is only "childish" love, I don't agree with them. Can we judge what Love really is? Can we judge other's people feelings?
I was 26 when I fell in love for a girl the first time. Unfortunately, her intentions were not what she made me believe they were. She was much more experienced than me in love affairs (and also intelligent and smart). When she left me, and it was the worst experience of my life, she said I was didn't "really" love her, I was only idealizing her image. The reality is that she didn't really love me, she only wanted someone to play with, but I realized it only some months later (it was impossible for me to accept this idea immediately).

I don't think love can be something objective; if it was, would it still be love?
Indeed, I have never been in love so deep again in my life; I would like to repeat an experience of that kind (but with the right person, this time).

Love to you all.

Alberto.

[another_someone]

quote:Originally posted by lightarrow
About Love, (by the way, this is the most important thing of life, to me) I feel there are many (maybe infinite?) kinds of it; when someone says, for example that, love between 14 y.o. boy and girl is only "childish" love, I don't agree with them. Can we judge what Love really is? Can we judge other's people feelings?

As I said above, the word love is used to describe a very substantial proportion of the range of human emotions.

I assume what people are mostly focussing on is romantic love.

Even within that context, there is no reason why anyone who has gone through puberty cannot feel the emotions of romantic love (in past centuries, people would even be marrying at that age).

quote:

I was 26 when I fell in love for a girl the first time. Unfortunately, her intentions were not what she made me believe they were. She was much more experienced than me in love affairs (and also intelligent and smart). When she left me, and it was the worst experience of my life, she said I was didn't "really" love her, I was only idealizing her image. The reality is that she didn't really love me, she only wanted someone to play with, but I realized it only some months later (it was impossible for me to accept this idea immediately).

I do agree that there is a naivety about a first love that can never be repeated on subsequent occasions.

I think love does depend on an element of idealisation, but the question is whether the two parties are willing to co-operate in perpetuating that fiction.

George

[4getmenot (OP)]

so all love is real? Only as you grow it changes and becomes a diffeent kind of love? so again..how do you know which one is the "THE" one?

k

[lightarrow]

quote:Originally posted by 4getmenot

so all love is real? Only as you grow it changes and becomes a diffeent kind of love? so again..how do you know which one is the "THE" one?

Because you believe it.

[another_someone]

quote:Originally posted by 4getmenot

so all love is real? Only as you grow it changes and becomes a diffeent kind of love? so again..how do you know which one is the "THE" one?

k

Is there a 'THE ONE' - I don't think so.  It is often a case of someone who is approximately right who just happens to be at the right time and the right place, and then both parties agree that they will put the work in to make the relationship work and grow.  It could just as easily have been any one of a million other people, but they were not there at the time.

Clearly, there are many people who would be the wrong one, but I don't think there is only one person who could have been the right one.

George

[moonfire]

I call it the "acceptable one" not Mr. Right, not Mr. Perfect...my expectations would of course, set someone up to fail...

"Lo" Loretta

[4getmenot (OP)]

quote:Originally posted by another_someone

quote:Originally posted by 4getmenot

so all love is real? Only as you grow it changes and becomes a diffeent kind of love? so again..how do you know which one is the "THE" one?

k

Is there a 'THE ONE' - I don't think so.  It is often a case of someone who is approximately right who just happens to be at the right time and the right place, and then both parties agree that they will put the work in to make the relationship work and grow.  It could just as easily have been any one of a million other people, but they were not there at the time.

Clearly, there are many people who would be the wrong one, but I don't think there is only one person who could have been the right one.

George

so when you meet someone and get that feeling yo have "never" felt before not sure what the feeling is and you assume it is love at first sight...it could have been the same feeling had it been any one of those other million people?? it was just that that person was "there" at the "right" time??/

k

[neilep]

I think the naivety of a first love IS repeated many times...One can just be plain predisposed to a naive nature...so. not just in matters of the heart but in matters of all....in fact..unless one Knows they are experiencing true love I think we are all naive in our perception of it.

The thing is...love is such a complex subject fraught with many avenues and branches of extremes and subtleties that no one really ever does know the definition....and yet....as Humans....boy do we like to talk about it...write about it..sing about it...in fact...a lot of the human experience is spent in matters of love...art..literature..philosophy...science forums....

...except....well...I think only you know when you are in love....

.......if you have to question it ? ..well..maybe you still could be in love but not realise it..........

.......Like has been said here ...love is subjective...but then so is every other emotion you can think of....even our senses are subjective and unless you experience love (and I am referring to the romantic love) then THAT is when you find your own definition of love is.

Some people shy away from love....they don't want it...perhaps they have suffered greatly because of love....maybe they do not wish the loss of control...of their individuality...

...for some Love is a trap....love is a cage...it's a loss of freedom...concentration...a madness !

It's bizarre that such a beautiful thing can cause so many extremes in other emotions too...

..can any one of us ever be sure of any feelings that we have ?

Men are the same as women, just inside out !

[time-cop]

quote:After reading this, I want to fall in love again! LOL Thanks Bren!

hey, what you doin saturday "lo" [] [}:)]

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[neilep]

quote:Originally posted by time-cop

quote:After reading this, I want to fall in love again! LOL Thanks Bren!

hey, what you doin saturday "lo" [] [}:)]

all in one place
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I don't know about LO...but I'm free on Saturday !! *blows him a kiss*  []

Men are the same as women, just inside out !

[time-cop]

i`ll book a limo, and motel

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