[Seany]

Hmm.. Suppose. But.. Wouldnt you not going out with her kill her aswell? LOL. And if she figures that she doesn't really like you after going out with you, because she only likes you by the looks, and haven't really had a chance to know your personality, then she wouldn't be that upset.

Anyway, I'm not telling you who to go or not go out with. It's your choice. But I wouldn't go out with her anyway. [] She'd freak me out with the whole stalkin business!

[Diydo (OP)]

heh, I guess this topic is already closed. It helped me analyse my feelings more accurately. Anyway, time to surf the forum anonymously once again!
Thanks eveyone! I really appreciate it

Peace out  []

[Seany]

Hey, your welcome. I hope all goes well with you and that girl! I mean, not to make a relationship or anything, but just to solve some problems. []

[another_someone]

I would ask - do you really think she is looking at you as a serious relationship, or as a trophy to hang on her wall (I know there are plenty of men who trophy hunt women, and there are women too who trophy hunt men - fine if both sides agree that is what they after, but not so if one side thinks they want more)?

[Karen W.]

People are not always what they appear to be.. You may really not know her type at all seeing that you really don't know her well enough to say what she is really like deep down inside . The only way to find out would be to get to know her better and see with your own heart what she is truely like and she can see what you are truely like too!

[another_someone]

People are not always what they appear to be.. You may really not know her type at all seeing that you really don't know her well enough to say what she is really like deep down inside . The only way to find out would be to get to know her better and see with your own heart what she is truely like and she can see what you are truely like too!

You can say a few things about how she sees herself.

She has tried to make herself visually noticed, and has asked her friends to report on how Diydo responds to her physical appearance.

What she has not done is gone up and spoken to him, and tried to show that she in an interesting person, rather than merely a superficially sexually attractive person.

Ofcourse, one cannot say that her self image is necessarily correct, but one can certainly suggest that she does have a high confidence in her own physical attractiveness, and little confidence in her own personality being attractive.

It is clear that she has had no shortage of previous boyfriends, so one can imagine that this prioritisation of physical appearance over personality has been the successful basis of the earlier relationships that she is now trying to repeat.

[Diydo (OP)]

Well, Just to make things clearer, I won't consider being in a relationship with that girl for many reasons which are obvious. Man, I don't even like her!

[Ben6789]

The stalking is too freaky, don't go out with her...

I would ask - do you really think she is looking at you as a serious relationship, or as a trophy to hang on her wall (I know there are plenty of men who trophy hunt women, and there are women too who trophy hunt men - fine if both sides agree that is what they after, but not so if one side thinks they want more)?

...Don't be her trophy.